How to emotionally relate to an Aspie?

[Just1More]

I could use some help...

Does anyone have any tips or book recs on how to "teach" an Aspie to read social cues/body language. AND how to make your own body language and cues clear when talking to someone who has Aspbergers?

Thanks!

[Linda on the move]

Originally Posted by Just1More

I could use some help...

Does anyone have any tips or book recs on how to "teach" an Aspie to read social cues/body language. AND how to make your own body language and cues clear when talking to someone who has Aspbergers?

Thanks!

My DD took a social skills class at a center that works with autistic children and it was invaluable. I highly recommend such a class.

Even with the same materials, you couldn't accomplish the same things at home. Social skills are about interacting with other people, so you need some other people to practice with.

As far as your own body language, look them in eye and say very clearly what you mean. Keep it simple. Don't expect them to read between the lines.

[DaughterOfKali]

Social Skills class/therapy, etc. There are dvd's that also teach it. I believe they are through Model Me Kids.

[Kristine233]

My son (who is Autistic) goes to a social skills group year round offered by the local mental health facility. They actually run it at school during the school year and then even during the summer they meet at the school. They talk about social skills, emotions etc and learn through play. He is 9 years old and has been doing social play groups of different sorts since he was 3. I don't know that you necessarily need to go out of your way to visually express anything but just make a point to verbally express your feelings. Others aren't going to make it obvious visually and if you want to be realistic you will not over exagerate things or people with Asperger's themselves might be offended. Its like someone purposefully and noticebly slowing thier speech when talking to a mentally impaired person. Everyone just wants to be treated like they are "normal".

[Mittsy]

We're looking into this for dd(5) who we strongly suspect has AS.

[joensally]

Originally Posted by Mittsy

We're looking into this for dd(5) who we strongly suspect has AS.

We love her materials. Great success with SuperFlex, and DS also liked Social Detective.

DS completed a social skills group last year and a lot really clicked for him there. He is not on the spectrum but was not effectively picking up social cues.

[BookGoddess]

I agree with the previous posters who mentioned social skills classes/groups, and lots of practice at school and elsewhere.

This book by Jed Baker "The Social Skills Picture Book Teaching play, emotion, and communication to children with autism" is excellent. It has large pictures of appropriate and inappropriate ways to behave in a given situation.
http://www.amazon.com/Picture-Teachi...1035748&sr=8-1

[QueenOfTheMeadow]

Yeah, I think social skills classes are really helpful. That way there are a lot of different people to interact with and learn those skills. My son, who is going into 6th grade, is in a class that works on social skills through out the day with kids in the class and kids in the regular ed class. It's amazing, and he's learned so much.

[nayma]

have you looked into RDI?

[sbgrace]

RDI is excellent. It's not a quick fix but I don't think anything genuine that really carries over is quick. I don't have experience with the other options mentioned on this thread!

[RiverTam]

Originally Posted by Just1More

I could use some help...

Does anyone have any tips or book recs on how to "teach" an Aspie to read social cues/body language. AND how to make your own body language and cues clear when talking to someone who has Aspbergers?

Thanks!

For little kids, the Transporters video is a good place to start.

http://www.thetransporters.com/

[Just1More]

Thanks!