Awww. That's not stupid at all! 
You shouldn't have to put yourself through the stress and harassment by people because of your very valid choices!! I think that's a very good reason to keep it from them. You can tell them afterwards if you want. Or not. Your birth, your choice. Just do what's best for you.
Personally, I'm not having that problem, but I expected it from my dad. We're close, he's in the medical field and still seems surprised at how I'm a fully functional adult. I sent him an email about a week after I told him I was pregnant (because right away he asked about doctors and hospitals!) telling him that I've been researching this option for years and this is what I'm doing. I told him we're still going in for the occasional ultrasound with an OB and she'll tell us if something looks off and not safe for a homebirth. I told him how our midwives have been doing this at home for 14 years and will absolutely not do it if they deem something is off or unsafe. I was shocked by his response. He said that it sounds like I did my research and he supports me. SHOCKED! I think I was shaking when I hit send on that email.
We tell everyone else that asks or that is part of our life, because they know us and we both have very strong personalities and they know not to argue with us or tell us they don't support us. DW's mom about screamed when we told her and she started praying the rosary right in our living room!
So she doesn't agree and is very scared but she knows better than to try and disuade us. We had even thought of her attending the birth because it's her only daughter's child that will be born, but no way can we have someone there who doesn't support it and is that worried.
Anyway- sorry to go on and on. I think that most people, no matter how old want their parent's approval or to be involved, but sometimes that's not possible if they are too far on the other side of the spectrum.
You shouldn't have to put yourself through the stress and harassment by people because of your very valid choices!! I think that's a very good reason to keep it from them. You can tell them afterwards if you want. Or not. Your birth, your choice. Just do what's best for you.Personally, I'm not having that problem, but I expected it from my dad. We're close, he's in the medical field and still seems surprised at how I'm a fully functional adult. I sent him an email about a week after I told him I was pregnant (because right away he asked about doctors and hospitals!) telling him that I've been researching this option for years and this is what I'm doing. I told him we're still going in for the occasional ultrasound with an OB and she'll tell us if something looks off and not safe for a homebirth. I told him how our midwives have been doing this at home for 14 years and will absolutely not do it if they deem something is off or unsafe. I was shocked by his response. He said that it sounds like I did my research and he supports me. SHOCKED! I think I was shaking when I hit send on that email.
We tell everyone else that asks or that is part of our life, because they know us and we both have very strong personalities and they know not to argue with us or tell us they don't support us. DW's mom about screamed when we told her and she started praying the rosary right in our living room!
So she doesn't agree and is very scared but she knows better than to try and disuade us. We had even thought of her attending the birth because it's her only daughter's child that will be born, but no way can we have someone there who doesn't support it and is that worried.Anyway- sorry to go on and on. I think that most people, no matter how old want their parent's approval or to be involved, but sometimes that's not possible if they are too far on the other side of the spectrum.
. I'm hoping for a quick 6-8 hour labor with another speedy exit! I am dying to meet this little one and find out if I am having little boy or a little girl.
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