EOW visitation...sbx cancelled

[hillymum]

So we have a mutual agreement ordered through the court that dh will have the boys eow for 3 days 2 nights. i had them last weekend but dh doesn't want them this coming weeked because he will miss out on one day by working on friday. What is the normal outcome of this kind of situation? Does he just miss his weekend and I have them for three weekends in a row or does this change the routine of which weekends are his?

Just because the boys miss him I have suggested that he has the boys for just one day so they can visit with him.

I'm trying to take the high road through all these games sbx plays but I am feeling like I am letting him get away with so much and letting him think this is how he can behave.

[One_Girl]

They just miss out on visitation then. Make sure you document when he misses a weekend and the reason he gives for missing.

[NolaRiordan]

I think this is really up to you and how accommodating you want to be. If your kids enjoy time with him then I would allow him a day or whatever. If not then just forget about it, and he just misses out.

But definitely DOCUMENT it.

[Halfasianmomma]

Document this so you can start establishing a pattern of lack of interest on his part. My journal was submitted as support of my affidavit in which I stated that XH only saw DD 3 hours a week, once every few weeks, and then only when it suited him (i.e. I had to drive her to him, bring food, diapers, wipes, clothing, and drive her back home). In the end, the judge saw that XH wasn't at all interested, and because he didn't even deign show up to the custody hearing, she granted me sole custody.

[orangecanoe]

In the beginning, I wouldn't be making switches and accomodating. Don't take it up with him, just keep notes of your communications and if it seems to be a pattern, then obviously you might need to switch up your parenting agreement. Just because EOW is a standard arrangement, doesn't mean it will work for you. It might be just one night every week or EOW and a dinner visit during the week? But you do need to give it a couple months and hope for the best. If he doesn't give it *his* best, then you'll have more options. Sorry for your sweet kids having to miss him though.