Encouraging BFing during pregnancy?

[allical1284]

My mind is all over the place, so bear with me
Yesterday I got a BFP. We were very surprised to have caught the first PP egg after the infertility battle we went through trying to conceive DD.
As soon as the thrill from the BFP wore off, I was a sobbing mess when I started thinking about DD. She is 15 months old and still nurses a few times a day and multiple, multiple times at night. She is not ready to give it up (and neither am I).
Everyone I know IRL who has been in this situation said that their toddler weaned themself at some point in the pregnancy. I know there are tandem nurses out there, so this isn't the case for all. Is there any way to encourage her to continue nursing, or is it out of my hands at this point?
TIA

[fyrwmn]

ds was only 8mo old when i got pg this time. he kept nursing like usual for several months and then started slowly dropping feedings. by 12mo, he started sttn and not waking to nurse anymore. i've got to admit that i was a littel relieved to be able to not be woken up every 2-3 hours at night. i've basically gone with the flow re his needs. right now he nurses once first thing in the morning, and then last thing before bed. i've slowly altered things to what works for him at the moment. right now, that is snuggling in bed while he nurses and letting him watch disney during. (usually i would not allow any tv since he's only 14mo old, but it helps him stay focused on nursing insted of switching sides every few seconds. if he asks other times during the day/night, i let him nurse, though usually he just latches on for a minute or so and then is off to play again.

[OdinsMommy0409]

I have 2 e-mommy friends who nursed during pregnancy and tandem nursed. One mother-child combo nursed through around 1/2 of the pregnancy before LO weaned due to dry supply, but LO resumed nursing once the new baby arrived. The other mother-child combo nursed frequently through pregnancy with some dry nursing and have been tandem nursing for the past month after the new baby's arrival.

[allical1284]

Thanks! This gives me some hope that she will hold out throughout this pregnancy. She is just still my little baby girl
Can you tell the preggo hormones are starting to kick in

[JudiAU]

Congratulations on the new pregnancy. She may self wean or not. You may loose your milk (usually 18w-20w) or not. She might want to nurse throughout it or not. You might find that you find it difficult/painful/stressful to nurse while you are pregnant or not.

What you can't do is control any of these things. So, try and and concentrate on your health and being available to your little girl now and try and let the emotion wash over you.

I will say that toddlers who self-wean during pregnancy often do so pretty gently which is a bit easier on the hormone-drenched pregnant mama.

[allical1284]

Thank you JudiAU, I really needed to hear all of those things.
I feel very committed to CLW, and I feel that by getting pregnant, I took that choice away from her somewhat.
Thank you again for letting me know where to redirect my energy and that it is okay to surrender to the process no matter where it leads us.