SO undecided.. and possibly PG?

[MayasMama88]

So we had our first child in October 2009. She is awesome, we love her SO much, and so far the entire experience has been wonderful. I love being a mom, and DH loves being a dad, but up until very recently we said we were going to wait a couple of years to have another one. The other day we started talking about how nice it would be to have another baby close to DDs age (2 under 2) because they could play together, and would have more in common (as opposed to my brother and I who were 14 years apart) and in the long-run they'd both be out of the house around the same time, lol! I'm not really experience with this sort of thing, but I hear 2 under 2 can be really good, right?

Also, we sometimes use protection, and sometimes don't. And recently I've been getting SO dehydrated, a little crampy, and pretty irritable. I've taken a PG test and it came back negative. Is it possible that it could have been a false negative? I still BF and haven't gotten my period since I first became PG with DD, so I can't exactly tell when I'm ovulating, and I certainly wouldn't be able to tell if I've missed a period because I don't HAVE a period.

I don't even really know what I expect anyone to say about all this. I guess I've just had baby on the brain lately, lol! Oh and it doesn't help that my best friend had two very real dreams about me being PG with a boy, and a few weeks before that my mom said she suddenly had this overwhelming urge to come up with boys' names.

[Kindermama]

It's possible you are pregnant but testing too early! It could also be your cycle is goign to start up again soon. I would test again in 3 days and if still negative, wait another 3-4 days for another test. By then, I think you would be able to know. Since you're having symptoms, implantation would have already taken place which means you should get a positive sooner rather than later.

That said, we have 4 and at one time, I had 2 under 2 and loved it! They are best buds now and I have no regrets! I don't think I'd do it again that way...but that's because they were my 3rd & 4th babies!

[Katie T]

I was crampy at times while nursing. But I also would get a period for 1 up 3 months in a row and then no period for up to 3 months. I got pg by surprise and DS and DD2 are 21 1/2months apart and I love the spacing as well! I am so glad it worked out like it did. They love each other so much and although at 3 and 2 they do fight some they play wonderfully together more than they fight.

Good luck and keep us posted!

[MayasMama88]

Thank you both for your responses! Well, I have a OBGYN appt on Monday, so I'll see if they'll give me a PG test just to make sure. I think in a way, I almost hope I am pregnant, even though DH said we should wait until we settle into our own home (we're renting). But I also know that if I AM pregnant, he'd be happy about it and we'd just work things out as they come. I do like the idea of having 2 so close in age, because my other brother and I are only 1.5 years apart, and we were eachother's first friends. I do remember we played together all the time, and it wasn't until I hit 13 and he hit 11 that we lost interest in eachother. Now I'm all nervous to find out if I'm PG or not on Monday.. but I'll definitely keep you posted!

[zjande]

Hi MayasMama, from another mama of an Oct09 baby. I am similar to you- I haven't had an AF since my Oct baby's birth. I frequently have cramps & other feelings that lead me to believe AF is on her way... but then she doesn't come. We haven't used BC since ds's birth at all. We're just allowing the next family member to come when he/she decides it's time to come.

I bought some super cheap pregnancy tests online. They were around 75cents a piece, and I cut each one in half. I've ended up just using one of those uber cheap, cut in half tests about once a week, just to put my mind at ease.

I'll tell ya, I'm so excited for the next sweet little baby person to come & will be overjoyed when he/she arrives in my belly. But, my main concern is breastmilk. My milk dries up early in pregnancy & my Oct09 baby is still 92% breastfed. He's not super interested in solids yet. I'd hate to have to start giving him bottles, but, that's they way it would be for awhile & all work out fine in the end. BUT again, I definitely agree that close in age siblings are awesome. Some of my kids have been very far apart in age (6-8 years apart), & others have been just under 2 yrs apart. The close in age siblings have so much fun together, & will have a built in playmate for board games, etc. forever!

I'll be excited to hear your pregnancy announcement, whether it's Monday or not ! And I'll be so happy to carry another baby one day, but I'm trying not to rush it. Not that I have any choice in the matter anyway, not even ovulating. I'll just continue to adore my newest baby & live vicariously through others' pregnancies.

[MayasMama88]

WELL, I'm not PG. However, DH and I have decided that we aren't going to prevent a pregnancy from happening, so perhaps in a few months or so there will be another little spirit in the spiral! I'll probably be asking tons of questions about homebirthing and waterbirthing once I'm PG, so watch out, lol!