I have my mediation hearing coming up and I have to have 4 affidavits plus one i do myself. I'm told that the judge looks down on them if they are too negative..which i don't want to happen. But the guide lines for writing one says to explain things that have went on..the relationship my daughters dad has with her..how much has he helped financially support her and what impact its made if he hasnt..etc..he's been gone 2 years..hasnt paid support at all the first year..and only 50 a month the second year..so is thousands behind..not to mention other issues he has going on. I want to make it clear what has went on and try to show i'm not trying to keep her away from him..in fact i've always encouraged him to see her thru his mom..he hasnt contacted me at all in the 2 years..and i didnt know how to contact him because he had no phone..and his mom was of no help. so i need to find a balance between the positive and the negative?.. because there really isnt anything positive about him at this time..and yet i'm suppose to state why i'm the better parent..and how i think i've handled everything on my own..and my relationship with my daughter. i feel like i would be bragging about myself..and beating him down...so confusing!!
he served me with the custody papers out of no where...and since that time he has text me constantly..day and night..trying to be friends?..rarely asks about our daughter.. and will get mad and start talking mean accusing me of saying he's worthless..a piece of s***...etc...and i told him he knows that text was completely false because i have never said that..and then he said he was sorry..that i acted like i felt that way?.. first he said he stayed away because he was ashamed..his mom said he did because he has serious mental issues..and then he says he stayed away because of how i acted.. the day i met with my attorney to get my answer to his paperwork..i had just left my attorneys office and her father sends me a text asking me to go to a ballgame that night with him..i told him no..i spend my days off work with our daughter..he said ok. then he text me yesterday and asked to talk to her..so i called his phone and had her say hi when he answered..i didnt plan on talking at all...he talked to her for MAYBE a minute..and i heard him say let me talk to your mom..and he starts with saying...whats going on? why are you acting so mean? why arent you being nice to me? why dont you talk very much to me?...just question after question..my attorney told me i dont have to talk to him unless its about our daughter..so i havent and he gets very upset.. it was after that call he started about me saying he was worthless..etc..and admitting i'd never said it...then later that night..he asked me to go for ice cream and then a ballgame??.. its really frustrating..because i am trying to be nice..i dont want to appear bad in court to the judge..but i have absolutely no interest in a relationship with him of any kind except both of us being the parents of our daughter. everytime i try to be nice...friendly nice...he takes it way out there and has accused me of liking him more then i will admit. i am so stressed at this point..i dont know whats wrong or right to do..seriously he does have mental problems..and my goal is only to make sure my daughter is safe and emotionally secure.
he doesnt have a care in the world..his mom is paying for all this for him...she supports him.. he works at an ice cream shop (25 year old man, soon to be 26)..he's had a couple good jobs but got fired from them..i have had to move back with my parents and rent my home out so that i have money to pay my attorney..and i've had to have my paychecks tax exempt until this is over..because i make too much for legal aid..yet his mom thinks i have all this money..and dont need his..although i'm not making an issue of child support..but it would be nice..he is asking for it to be lowered...my first interest is my daughter well being.
i have no idea how he's going to find people to write his considering he hasnt had her around him in 2 years...but i guess i get to read his as well as he does mine..i have no problem getting 4 or alot more if i needed to..its mine i have a problem with trying to keep the negative out yet make the judge aware of how things really are. yes i have anger over all this because not only because of how things have gone the last 2 years, but also because he didnt even try to talk to me, just went and got an attorney when his mother had been coming to see our daughter every couple weeks over the last 2 years. i know this all came about because she wants the visitations..he doesnt..he had already agreed to turn his over to her ... but i didnt agree..so this has been filed..she's doing it through him since he is her father...i get so mad thinking about all this..and frustrated..i'm afraid my anger is going to show..in my affidavit..or when i have to go to court....suggestions????
he served me with the custody papers out of no where...and since that time he has text me constantly..day and night..trying to be friends?..rarely asks about our daughter.. and will get mad and start talking mean accusing me of saying he's worthless..a piece of s***...etc...and i told him he knows that text was completely false because i have never said that..and then he said he was sorry..that i acted like i felt that way?.. first he said he stayed away because he was ashamed..his mom said he did because he has serious mental issues..and then he says he stayed away because of how i acted.. the day i met with my attorney to get my answer to his paperwork..i had just left my attorneys office and her father sends me a text asking me to go to a ballgame that night with him..i told him no..i spend my days off work with our daughter..he said ok. then he text me yesterday and asked to talk to her..so i called his phone and had her say hi when he answered..i didnt plan on talking at all...he talked to her for MAYBE a minute..and i heard him say let me talk to your mom..and he starts with saying...whats going on? why are you acting so mean? why arent you being nice to me? why dont you talk very much to me?...just question after question..my attorney told me i dont have to talk to him unless its about our daughter..so i havent and he gets very upset.. it was after that call he started about me saying he was worthless..etc..and admitting i'd never said it...then later that night..he asked me to go for ice cream and then a ballgame??.. its really frustrating..because i am trying to be nice..i dont want to appear bad in court to the judge..but i have absolutely no interest in a relationship with him of any kind except both of us being the parents of our daughter. everytime i try to be nice...friendly nice...he takes it way out there and has accused me of liking him more then i will admit. i am so stressed at this point..i dont know whats wrong or right to do..seriously he does have mental problems..and my goal is only to make sure my daughter is safe and emotionally secure.
he doesnt have a care in the world..his mom is paying for all this for him...she supports him.. he works at an ice cream shop (25 year old man, soon to be 26)..he's had a couple good jobs but got fired from them..i have had to move back with my parents and rent my home out so that i have money to pay my attorney..and i've had to have my paychecks tax exempt until this is over..because i make too much for legal aid..yet his mom thinks i have all this money..and dont need his..although i'm not making an issue of child support..but it would be nice..he is asking for it to be lowered...my first interest is my daughter well being.
i have no idea how he's going to find people to write his considering he hasnt had her around him in 2 years...but i guess i get to read his as well as he does mine..i have no problem getting 4 or alot more if i needed to..its mine i have a problem with trying to keep the negative out yet make the judge aware of how things really are. yes i have anger over all this because not only because of how things have gone the last 2 years, but also because he didnt even try to talk to me, just went and got an attorney when his mother had been coming to see our daughter every couple weeks over the last 2 years. i know this all came about because she wants the visitations..he doesnt..he had already agreed to turn his over to her ... but i didnt agree..so this has been filed..she's doing it through him since he is her father...i get so mad thinking about all this..and frustrated..i'm afraid my anger is going to show..in my affidavit..or when i have to go to court....suggestions????
