How panicked should I be?

[physics girl]

Hi, I've been lurking for a few months and finally got a copy of TCOYF from the library this summer and started charting, mostly just for information at this point. Since my boyfriend and I really aren't in a position to have kids yet we rely condoms, plus spermicide when I'm fertile or just feeling worried.

Anyway, this month I quit temping right around the time I expected to ovulate because there was a sudden death in the family and I wound up spending several days at my grandmother's house without my thermometer. Yesterday when I was with my boyfriend, I told him that signs pointed to being safe (CM had gone from EW to tacky and opaque a few days before and my cervix was low and firm.) but that I wanted to use spermicide since I couldn't be positive. After I inserted the spermicide, one thing led to another, I didn't tell him to stop, and we dtd without a condom for the first time since I went off hormonal birth control over a year ago. He did withdraw, but I'm feeling more than a little bit freaked out even though the odds are on my side.

So, am I crazy for worrying that I'm going to wind up pregnant? Would you feel safe with spermicide + withdrawal? Was I an idiot?

[Baby_Cakes]

Without temps its hard to say b/c you really can't completely confirm O. But w/both spermide AND w/d, I'd say you're probably safe regardless. W/d is actually a pretty effective method on it's own, I think it's about the same rate as condoms. Someone correct me if I'm wrong?

[HulaJenn]

yep. We've been using a lot of withdrawal for over a year now. As long as it is successful (ie/ he made it out in time and he hadn't ejaculated in the last few hours before dtd again) in combination with the spermicide, I wouldn't panic.

[physics girl]

Thanks for the reassurance! After reading your responses, I checked the planned parenthood. When used perfectly, withdrawal is listed as having a 4% annual failure rate, which seems pretty darn good. This still isn't something I'm planning on repeating any time soon.

I think I need to start carrying my thermometer with me since I suspect that if I'd temped I would have reassuring data and wouldn't be having to work so hard to talk myself out of worrying.