I need some reassurance. My kids are starting school for the first time, and I am particularly worried about my 6yo.
Both of my children are sweet and sensitive, as pretty much all kids are, but my younger son is much more of a delicate soul in some ways than my older son. Ds2 gets overwhelmed with too much noise and chaos. He gets really upset with being timed or racing or other competition. He is slow in getting his words out, but usually has something important to say, and gets really upset and hurt when someone cuts him off or stops listening before he's done. He doesn't like being rushed - he concentrates really hard on what he's working on, and gets very frustrated if he's forced to stop before he's finished. He's a dreamer, often singing to himself and just lying in the grass watching the bugs or the clouds.
He's taken classes and done summer day camps and does just fine. But those have all been hand selected by me, and are all for fun, without any pressure. It's not like he can't handle instruction or freaks out from loud noises, but I just can't imagine him thriving day in and day out in a regimented, competitive situation.
My older son thrives in noise and chaos, loves competition, rolls with the punches and just generally functions better in what I imagine a typical public school classroom will be like. But I am so nervous for ds2. I just can't picture him dealing well with being in the middle of a project and the bell ringing. Or teachers have "just for fun" competitions. Or him having an important question about what he's supposed to do but the teacher not having time to listen to him explain. Or 15 minute recesses when everyone races to get a game started and then is hyped up to get their turn before it's over. These are the kind of situations that freak him out.
I wish he was going to a sweet little private school, but we just can't afford it, and I'm worried about his little delicate soul.
Both of my children are sweet and sensitive, as pretty much all kids are, but my younger son is much more of a delicate soul in some ways than my older son. Ds2 gets overwhelmed with too much noise and chaos. He gets really upset with being timed or racing or other competition. He is slow in getting his words out, but usually has something important to say, and gets really upset and hurt when someone cuts him off or stops listening before he's done. He doesn't like being rushed - he concentrates really hard on what he's working on, and gets very frustrated if he's forced to stop before he's finished. He's a dreamer, often singing to himself and just lying in the grass watching the bugs or the clouds.
He's taken classes and done summer day camps and does just fine. But those have all been hand selected by me, and are all for fun, without any pressure. It's not like he can't handle instruction or freaks out from loud noises, but I just can't imagine him thriving day in and day out in a regimented, competitive situation.
My older son thrives in noise and chaos, loves competition, rolls with the punches and just generally functions better in what I imagine a typical public school classroom will be like. But I am so nervous for ds2. I just can't picture him dealing well with being in the middle of a project and the bell ringing. Or teachers have "just for fun" competitions. Or him having an important question about what he's supposed to do but the teacher not having time to listen to him explain. Or 15 minute recesses when everyone races to get a game started and then is hyped up to get their turn before it's over. These are the kind of situations that freak him out.
I wish he was going to a sweet little private school, but we just can't afford it, and I'm worried about his little delicate soul.
, but the more orderly classroom allows dd space to work in peace.
). It is psychologically easier for him to be in a classroom where consequences are enforced consistently for the kids who do misbehave. Otherwise he spends an inordinate amount of time stressing out over the unfairness of it all.
