Ugghh..yesterday we were at my older son's football practice and my 6 year old with SPD/language disorder was really out of control. He had a bad day and was playing on the playground equipment but was being very loud and obnoxious (he is a seeker) - jumping from very high up, yelling, burping, rolling on the ground, etc.
So of course I am getting the looks (used to that) but when I asked him to come over to me he said "WHY????" and this woman who is a casual friend AND KNOWS ABOUT HIS DIAGNOSIS told him sternly not to talk to his mother that way and told him how he should have responded. Then made him respond appropriately. I was livid. First of all, I was right there, she didn't need to step in. Second, couldn't she see we were having an awful day and just STAY OUT OF IT?? Third, she knows about his challenges and knows this is not just bratty behavior, so why did she find it necessary to step in as if I can't handle my own children?? Ladies, I was so angry!!
I feel like writing an email and telling her she can step in when:
-she puts her non verbal 2.5 year old on a bus to go across town to special ed
- she goes to therapy 2X a week for 5 years
- she goes broke paying for therapy and sensory integration products
- she goes to IEP meetings, extra teacher conferences and signs daily progess charts
- she has to deal with a sensory seeker who jumps, crashes, burps, yells, touches everything, sucks/chews everything, and can't sit still for 2 seconds
- she has to make time EVERY DAY for therapeutic listening, social stories, swinging, and trampoline jumping
- she has to comfort her child when he says he doesn't have any friends
When she has lived the above every day, then she can step in and "help".
Sheez!!
So of course I am getting the looks (used to that) but when I asked him to come over to me he said "WHY????" and this woman who is a casual friend AND KNOWS ABOUT HIS DIAGNOSIS told him sternly not to talk to his mother that way and told him how he should have responded. Then made him respond appropriately. I was livid. First of all, I was right there, she didn't need to step in. Second, couldn't she see we were having an awful day and just STAY OUT OF IT?? Third, she knows about his challenges and knows this is not just bratty behavior, so why did she find it necessary to step in as if I can't handle my own children?? Ladies, I was so angry!!
I feel like writing an email and telling her she can step in when:
-she puts her non verbal 2.5 year old on a bus to go across town to special ed
- she goes to therapy 2X a week for 5 years
- she goes broke paying for therapy and sensory integration products
- she goes to IEP meetings, extra teacher conferences and signs daily progess charts
- she has to deal with a sensory seeker who jumps, crashes, burps, yells, touches everything, sucks/chews everything, and can't sit still for 2 seconds
- she has to make time EVERY DAY for therapeutic listening, social stories, swinging, and trampoline jumping
- she has to comfort her child when he says he doesn't have any friends
When she has lived the above every day, then she can step in and "help".
Sheez!!
