My ds5 has a buddy who has come for playdates every so often since they were about 2. Buddy has always been very energetic, and extremely disinclined to follow rules or take direction. He's pretty sweet natured, but really egocentric and destructive.
Here's a typical first 5 minutes of a playdate: I hear Buddy's mom telling him to get OUT of our neighbor's flower beds, then telling him to climb DOWN from their fence. Buddy bangs very loudly on the door. I open the door and greet them; Buddy runs past me to ds' toys and starts flinging them out of the box. He drops the last toy on the floor, purposely steps on it, and begins jumping on ds' bed. I ask Buddy to take off his shoes. He grins at me and keeps jumping. Buddy's mom asks him to take off his shoes. He laughs, leaps off the bed (onto the toys he threw on the floor), and runs out of the room, knocking ds5 out of the way as he goes. He slams the bedroom door, runs into the bathroom, slams that door, and giggles as he begins slamming the shower doors back and forth. His mom opens the bathroom door and finds he is on the counter, chewing on a toothbrush and trying to shove another toothbrush into an outlet. He jumps down, runs out of the room, climbs up to the counter in the kitchen, and starts opening and slamming the microwave door, repeatedly. He is giggling all the while, and ignoring requests and demands that he stop.
He's a perfectly intelligent kid, but he's like this pretty much all the time, in every venue.
For forever, Buddy's parents just said "he's clever," "he's spunky," "he likes to play by his own rules," and excused his behavior. But, Buddy is going to kindergarten next month, and his kindy interviewer had concerns that he wasn't ready. I think this is what led to Buddy's parents being tentatively open to learning about sensory-seeking behaviors. I'm supposed to send them some links. I have some, but I thought someone here might have better ones!
I will pass on advice, as well. Thanks!
Here's a typical first 5 minutes of a playdate: I hear Buddy's mom telling him to get OUT of our neighbor's flower beds, then telling him to climb DOWN from their fence. Buddy bangs very loudly on the door. I open the door and greet them; Buddy runs past me to ds' toys and starts flinging them out of the box. He drops the last toy on the floor, purposely steps on it, and begins jumping on ds' bed. I ask Buddy to take off his shoes. He grins at me and keeps jumping. Buddy's mom asks him to take off his shoes. He laughs, leaps off the bed (onto the toys he threw on the floor), and runs out of the room, knocking ds5 out of the way as he goes. He slams the bedroom door, runs into the bathroom, slams that door, and giggles as he begins slamming the shower doors back and forth. His mom opens the bathroom door and finds he is on the counter, chewing on a toothbrush and trying to shove another toothbrush into an outlet. He jumps down, runs out of the room, climbs up to the counter in the kitchen, and starts opening and slamming the microwave door, repeatedly. He is giggling all the while, and ignoring requests and demands that he stop.
He's a perfectly intelligent kid, but he's like this pretty much all the time, in every venue.
For forever, Buddy's parents just said "he's clever," "he's spunky," "he likes to play by his own rules," and excused his behavior. But, Buddy is going to kindergarten next month, and his kindy interviewer had concerns that he wasn't ready. I think this is what led to Buddy's parents being tentatively open to learning about sensory-seeking behaviors. I'm supposed to send them some links. I have some, but I thought someone here might have better ones!
I will pass on advice, as well. Thanks!
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. Ds' enthusiasm for K lasted about 4 months, by then he'd had enough of always being in trouble. I'm thankful that we now have a diagnosis, a new CBT therapist, and an OT; though it will be awhile to get everyone in place.
