i purposely did not post this on the SN forum or any other because its not as big as some of the kids i read about.
it is anxiety for sure, but more of the worrier kind. the what ifs. i see so much similarity between my mom and dd who are both virgos along with a few friends of mine - that i sometimes think worrying is a virgo trait.
i am posting this now because i notice my usually gregarious child is getting shy. i know that comes with age and it is age appropriate, but i think its more than that. what will people think.
she is articulating more and more the what ifs.
she also has some sensory issues. they were much stronger as a toddler but its there but not to the extreme degree. so i have found tight bear hugs, a lot of human touch really helps her. for instance cosleeping with our bodies touching is huge for her.
i try to encourage dd to do the things she is scared of. its such a fine line between pushing and encouraging that i am not sure where the boundaries lie.
if you were a child, what helped you? or if your child has mild anxiety how do you help. dd is a sensation seeker so for her 'more the merrier' is v. typical.
i have tried to set an example but dd sometimes brushes that away by saying 'oh mama for you life is always an adventure.'
deep breathing does not help during a panic attack. not that she has many. i am still struggling to find strategies that she can come up with. which she has. on her own. like being able to surround herself in a rainbow bubble so that when someone was shooting her in her nightmare she covered herself with teh protective shield (from the incredibles maybe?) and wasnt scared in her dream. she watched the bullets bounce off.
i want her to build this sense of reality within her. where she recognises she is in a panic attack and she needs to do something so she doesnt go down the illogical path and let her fears take over.
she is the kind of child who can deal with violence, but cannot deal with suspense. at all. even today.
or am i asking for the impossible.
it is anxiety for sure, but more of the worrier kind. the what ifs. i see so much similarity between my mom and dd who are both virgos along with a few friends of mine - that i sometimes think worrying is a virgo trait.
i am posting this now because i notice my usually gregarious child is getting shy. i know that comes with age and it is age appropriate, but i think its more than that. what will people think.
she is articulating more and more the what ifs.
she also has some sensory issues. they were much stronger as a toddler but its there but not to the extreme degree. so i have found tight bear hugs, a lot of human touch really helps her. for instance cosleeping with our bodies touching is huge for her.
i try to encourage dd to do the things she is scared of. its such a fine line between pushing and encouraging that i am not sure where the boundaries lie.
if you were a child, what helped you? or if your child has mild anxiety how do you help. dd is a sensation seeker so for her 'more the merrier' is v. typical.
i have tried to set an example but dd sometimes brushes that away by saying 'oh mama for you life is always an adventure.'
deep breathing does not help during a panic attack. not that she has many. i am still struggling to find strategies that she can come up with. which she has. on her own. like being able to surround herself in a rainbow bubble so that when someone was shooting her in her nightmare she covered herself with teh protective shield (from the incredibles maybe?) and wasnt scared in her dream. she watched the bullets bounce off.
i want her to build this sense of reality within her. where she recognises she is in a panic attack and she needs to do something so she doesnt go down the illogical path and let her fears take over.
she is the kind of child who can deal with violence, but cannot deal with suspense. at all. even today.
or am i asking for the impossible.
