I am so sick of wondering

[purplepaperclip]

I just want to be pregnant. I don't want to wonder and wait and then be disappointed and then wait some more and then wonder and wait for 2 weeks. I hate the process. How do you get past the crazy-inducing mind games? Tell me your zen stories, the things you do to stay sane...

[lapis]

I have no idea, but totally know the feeling and can certainly commiserate.

good luck and hope you get your baby soon

[maxnmaizy]

I hear you. I'm awful at this. I have zero patience, and hate not knowing what's going on. Two week wait? Forget about it. It doesn't help that my cycles seem to be on the longer side, so it is taking longer than a quick 28 day cycle. My friend told me the other day that I need to stop thinking about it, that is the biggest joke. I am obsessive....yeah, I hear ya.

I would love to hear how people cope with this.

[ZoeJane'sMommy]

I hear you ladies!! I have really long cycles and actually I have not even had a true cycle since 2006(pregnancy and then mirena). But it was much harder the first time TTC, so I understand. Who wants to wait around to get pregnant its bad enough we have to wait 9 months to see them. I am an obsesser over everything I do and it made my life horrible the first go around. But I will tell you since it took 16 months the first time it has made the second time easier. I have been TTC for 4 months now and since the begining I have told myself it will atleast 6 months so it has really helped me this time to have lower expectations. The first time I thought for sure it wouldnt take more than 3 months and I got to watch 4 of my friends and sisters get pregnant and I started before them. Really the only to get peace, for me anyway, is to just think its not going to happen to me anytime soon. It is really hard to change your thought process, and most people probably cant, but that is what worked for me. I still obssess, but this time I am focusing on just trying to ovulate and not worrying about getting prego yet.

I am sure that didn't help you, but thats my story this go around.

[Marnica]

I think whatever you need to tell youself to help you relax about it is what you have to do....it is exactly this type of stress and worry that will hinder your chances of conceiving. I can't tell you how many stories Ive heard of people (including at least half a dozen personal friends) who were having trouble conceiving and it was when they said, "you know, I need to take a break form this and relax for a few months" is when they conceived.

http://www.nih.gov/news/health/aug2010/nichd-11.htm

[slb1107]

I am an obsessor lol So I don't think I will be able to get my mind off of it. Just try not to have a negative attitude towards it? Maybe being positive and obsessive is a good thing haha