I hear you ladies!! I have really long cycles and actually I have not even had a true cycle since 2006(pregnancy and then mirena). But it was much harder the first time TTC, so I understand. Who wants to wait around to get pregnant its bad enough we have to wait 9 months to see them. I am an obsesser over everything I do and it made my life horrible the first go around. But I will tell you since it took 16 months the first time it has made the second time easier. I have been TTC for 4 months now and since the begining I have told myself it will atleast 6 months so it has really helped me this time to have lower expectations. The first time I thought for sure it wouldnt take more than 3 months and I got to watch 4 of my friends and sisters get pregnant and I started before them. Really the only to get peace, for me anyway, is to just think its not going to happen to me anytime soon. It is really hard to change your thought process, and most people probably cant, but that is what worked for me. I still obssess, but this time I am focusing on just trying to ovulate and not worrying about getting prego yet.
I am sure that didn't help you, but thats my story this go around.