I gave notice at work yesterday. I probably should have posted this thread LAST week, since yesterday didn't go well!
I'm resigning for a lot of reasons, but primarily because this is what DH and I think our family needs most right now. In Jan, I will have our fourth child, and I'll have a six yo, a 3 yo, a 14 month old, and a newborn. I don't want to work for a while. And when I do, I think I will want to work very part time, as in less than 12 hours a week. That isn't possible at my current job, where all the part time positions are 17 hours a week (I know it doesn't sound like much of a diffference, but it feels like a big difference!)
I expected my boss to be somewhat unhappy (she hates hiring) but I didn't expect her to be really, really upset and stressed. I didn't know that another employee had decided to cut back from two part-time positions to only one, so that means my boss will need to fill two positions at once. But at the same time, that could be a bonus - advertise and interview once, be done with hiring! Right?
I feel very judged by my boss. She is very driven. She took two weeks of mat leave with baby #1, and 10 days with baby #2. She worked multiple part time jobs to work her way up to being director. She has told me that at one point, she was paying more for childcare than she was earning, but that it was worth it to keep on the career track (that wouldn't even be an option for us, I could maybe deal with breaking even but I can't pay *more* than I earn).
In the end, because she was so upset, I offered to push back my last day. And that calmed her down considerably, and she was open to talking about me subbing, volunteering, and doing contract work (all of which I really want to do, to stay somewhat in the career field). I find it a bit ridiculous though, considering I gave 8 weeks notice originally, and now she has up to four months to find a replacement. Four months! Even in a teaching field like ours, where transitions work best if the outgoing teacher trains the new one, eight weeks should be plenty of notice. She once told me she thought six weeks notice perfectly adequate.
I don't know what I'm looking for. Maybe commiseration? Thoughts from people who supervise employees? Thoughts from moms who have a hard time fathoming wanting to stay at home? Ideas to help me get through the next eight weeks or more, and leave on good terms?
Throw it out there!
I'm resigning for a lot of reasons, but primarily because this is what DH and I think our family needs most right now. In Jan, I will have our fourth child, and I'll have a six yo, a 3 yo, a 14 month old, and a newborn. I don't want to work for a while. And when I do, I think I will want to work very part time, as in less than 12 hours a week. That isn't possible at my current job, where all the part time positions are 17 hours a week (I know it doesn't sound like much of a diffference, but it feels like a big difference!)
I expected my boss to be somewhat unhappy (she hates hiring) but I didn't expect her to be really, really upset and stressed. I didn't know that another employee had decided to cut back from two part-time positions to only one, so that means my boss will need to fill two positions at once. But at the same time, that could be a bonus - advertise and interview once, be done with hiring! Right?
I feel very judged by my boss. She is very driven. She took two weeks of mat leave with baby #1, and 10 days with baby #2. She worked multiple part time jobs to work her way up to being director. She has told me that at one point, she was paying more for childcare than she was earning, but that it was worth it to keep on the career track (that wouldn't even be an option for us, I could maybe deal with breaking even but I can't pay *more* than I earn).
In the end, because she was so upset, I offered to push back my last day. And that calmed her down considerably, and she was open to talking about me subbing, volunteering, and doing contract work (all of which I really want to do, to stay somewhat in the career field). I find it a bit ridiculous though, considering I gave 8 weeks notice originally, and now she has up to four months to find a replacement. Four months! Even in a teaching field like ours, where transitions work best if the outgoing teacher trains the new one, eight weeks should be plenty of notice. She once told me she thought six weeks notice perfectly adequate.
I don't know what I'm looking for. Maybe commiseration? Thoughts from people who supervise employees? Thoughts from moms who have a hard time fathoming wanting to stay at home? Ideas to help me get through the next eight weeks or more, and leave on good terms?
Throw it out there!
Just remember that you are not your boss. The decisions she made in reguard to her family and her career were good for her. You life is uniquely yours. 
May the next 8 weeks fly by!
though I can see how it must have been hard at the time.
