My first nirth was a traumatic one at hospital causing PTSD. I had wanted to home berth but things went tits up after some bullying by MWs.
For my second birth, I decided on a home birth again and this time, I was going to have that home birth and not be bullied into going to hospital.
My story for this one isn't as awful as others and really, I class it as a good one because it wasn't as bad as the hospital birth but::::
The MWs couldn't get out to me so they send out a student MW to observe me. She was lovely, but didn't know how to work the entonox cannisters.
All the MWs insisted on making me change position to hear heart tones and it was so incredibly painful to do this, thing was, this was their first home birth (lolol).
There were supposed to be 2 midwives and ended up with 5 in a small flat and it just got a bit overwhelming, I started panicking and feeling quite uncomfortable due to this sudden midwife invasion in my home.
When babe was finally born, I started bleeding heavily, a small PPH and a nasty second degree tear........... Really, I can't fault my treatment kinda, sorta. What really got to me was that they bustled off to dress the baby (they wouldn't let my DH do it and the whole point of the homebirth was for it to be a family thing and yet again, he was shoved to the side even though he is perfectly capable of putting a nappy and clothes on a baby. The whole time the baby was crying and I couldn't move and DH had been sent off to do menial chores for the MWs and it just felt pretty bloody awful, baby crying, not being able to move, seeing DHs face of disappointment and thunder etc etc.And it was all down to the fact that the MWs showed up because it was quiet night and they just totally took over my birth.
There wasn't any permanent damage from it all, not physically, but DH was and still is pissed about the whole thing and I am still pissed about it too. The baby didn't need to be dressed, she coulda just been wrapped well and handed to us, but no, the MWs just HAD to play with mine and DHs baby, OUR baby.
I was transferred for a tear repair so DH and I got some quiet time then.
I went on to have another homebirth and in my birth notes I specified that no more than 2 MWs were too attend and I was VERY specific about DH being allowed contact with baby, dressing baby etc, BUT, the MW was 10 mins late for the birth, DH was about 5 mins late for birth but it went ok (although DH was incredibly disappointed at missing the birth).
Really, with all the births whether in the hospital or at home, DH is probably the one who has been most affected, he was ignored and watched me treated like crap at the first, he was ignored at the second and he missed the third.
I am sterilised now so no more babies, I would choose a homebirth again BUT had something more serious occured rather than just a slightly negative experience, I would have to wonder about whether a home birth would be a good option, but then experiencing trauma in the hospital, I am just not sure I could go there either.........
I just can't believe the treatment some of you lot have experienced at the hands of your care providers, absolutely shocking!!!!!!!!! For those who have lost or are dealing with disabled children as a result I am truely sorry, I can't imagine the pain you must feel.