IME INTACT is easier and cleaner than cut. I've been a nanny and DCP for years before and after becoming a mom. All the boys I ever took care of were cut and it was my idea of normal. When I got pg with my oldest, who is 8, I didn't even consider not circing him. But I was confronted on another message board and decided I at least owed it to my child to research it, as I did everything else about birth and babies. I didn't want to though, cause I was afraid of what I might find and tbh, I thought intact would be gross.
But I am so thankful I learned the truth on time. All it took was one video to turn me into anti circ, I told my dh no way in hell would I do that to our son, and after watching the video, he agreed.
When my son was born I found him to be beautiful and whole, I never realized just how raw and injured all the boys actually seemed that I had babysat. At every diaper change you had to move their cut foreskins because stuff always got trapped in them. With my son, it was just wipe it off like a finger. I have 2 boys now, both intact, and have never had any problems at all.
Research shows that infants have less capacity to deal with pain than adults or older children do. Not to mention, when an adult it circ'd, he is put right under and given all the painkillers he needs afterwards. Babies are given no such humane treatment, they cut them as if they were unfeeling beings- awake and afraid, and send them on their way w/o a bit of pain relief for afterwards, then they have to sit in a diaper of their own urine day in and day out while they are still raw and healing.
No question in my mind infant circ is far worse than adult, even if they can't remember it.
Circumcision removes a shocking amount of length. My nephew that is circ'd appears to have almost no penis, just a little nub, while my ds is about 3-4 times longer. I don't understand how our culture can find this acceptable.
My son's penis is his, I have to right to allow a cosmetic surgery upon it.
I would never want my children to think that they must conform in order to be accepted. Yet people always seem to bring up the alleged locker room scenario. If that were to happen to my son, I would except him to turn it around and say something to the affect of "dude why are you checking out my stuff!?" etc.
For many years north america has perpetuated the myth that intact is dirty and must be retracted to keep it clean from infancy. This "medical advice" is bunk and is the cause for many circs that "had" to be done later due to the retraction causing small tears or adhesions- scars basically. Then of course, any trouble w/ an itact penis meant immediate circ, when they could have tried steroid creams first. But ignorance prevails. All you have to do is look at the circ rates after infancy in European countries where circ is not routine, they're intact and they know how to care for themselves, thus their adult circ rate is quite low...