Are you excited??!!?? - Page 2

[greenmulberry]

Originally Posted by hollytheteacher

I hope a lot of you remember that people are saying this because they are excited.

Oh I know. That's why I say something like, "Oh yes we are, I am also really tired though."

And then I come here and complain.

[finnegansmom]

Originally Posted by hollytheteacher

I'd much rather have someone squeal and be all excited than say "was it planned?" because i *did* have someone ask me that. I was shocked. we had been trying for five months YES it was planned...sheesh.

I agree with this totally. I had a constant stream of "OMF was this planned?" with my first since I got pregnant before we got married, and then got married pregnant. Well, maybe it wasn't planned, but it wasn't unplanned. It's not like we were using BC and it's not like that or anything else is of anyone else's business (except you guys, LOL).

But really...I don't mind "are you excited". I don't mind general questions at all about the pregnancy, it makes me feel like someone gives a hoot. The snarky "another one? but you're maxed out..." or questions about finances, or stupid, obnoxious questons that are only asked to back you in a corner and make you feel badly....well people can shove those where the sun don't shine.

[guest123456]

*BIG sigh of relief* Whew! It's okay to feel tired and cranky and crappy and mad! Validation and commiseration are sometimes the best medicine. Getting the same q's from strangers, family and acquaintances. The one that gets to me is when DH says, "You're MOODY today, aren't you?!" My answer is probably not appropriate for the web... : ) then I feel bad! He's wonderful and understands, he gives me time to walk away and cool off. Oh yeah, the worst I've found is, since we're not married and aren't in a rush to be... "When are you getting married? You know it's the right thing to do." or "When will we hear some wedding bells?" Never knew I had homicidal tendencies until now. God bless them and their intentions but it's sometimes a case of 'wrong words...wrong time'

Thanks for the thread, I feel sane and normal now : )

[Mrs.Music]

I hate:
Are you excited? Because... DUH.
What are you having? I don't know, a baby, none of your business.
Is this your first? I have no idea why this one bugs the crap out of me...
And I really really hate:
How is the baby doing? How the heck should I know? Baby-like? Alive, I assume. How do you answer that?

[myk]

this is my second baby (4th pg, but first 2 early losses) and i'm really not all that excited. not that i don't love this baby with all my heart and look forward to finally having a second after two years of trying..

but it's hard to get excited when you're sick all the time.
it's hard to get excited when you can barely walk from the pain.
it's hard to get excited when you're so tired you cry sometimes.
it's hard to get excited when you're scared something's wrong because you were given some wrong drug information, and didn't find out til it was too late to make a difference.

so yes, i'm HAPPY that this baby is on the way and i am hopeful that it is healthy. but "excited" is not the right word.

[babyjelly]

Oh, don't get me started on "Is it your first?" I'm young- 26- and look younger, so when I reply, "No, it's my fourth"...I get either a wide-eyed "Oh. Wow." or a lecture on birth control X(
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[myk]

heh, i did that by accident.. this woman looked YOUNG. early 20s. she's turning 30 actually.. but when i saw her with a newborn i asked her if it was her first. nope, SIXTH. i don't know what i said after that but i hope it wasn't offensive! i know for sure i didn't lecture her on birth control.. but i might have had a slack-jawed WOW.

[Baby~Braatens~Mama]

Originally Posted by MaerynPearl

I did have someone ask if it was a good accident or a bad accident.

I asked them how I could possibly consider pregnancy an accident. Its not like... oops! We had sex! ha-ha silly us!

Exactly! DP and I were not planning on having a baby, right now. But we were discussing marriage and starting a family. And we were both very much aware of the fact that having sex was the way to make a baby. So even though the baby was a surprise, he really wasn't all that surprising...

Are you excited annoys me, but the person asking usually has such a goofy/excited look on their face when they ask that I usually just smile and say yes.

Are you going to get married? This question literally crawls under my skin and eats away at my happy core. Oh, and because we are not married, any time DP isn't around, people I don't actually know tend to ask, "Well, what about the father? How does he feel?" I always want to reply, "I haven't told him yet... when do you think a good time would be?"

[Climbergirl]

Most of the "are you excited" stuff doesn't really bother me. The one question that gets me is "when are you going to have your c-section". Argh. I don't want to teach the world about VBAC and the looks I get are classic.

[pugmomma]

I want to chime in as well. This question does get annoying- especially from the same people often...like co-workers or extended family. I guess I should be more embullient, but ditto to everything that has been said. This is my first and I am worried about everything. I feel tired all the time.

Oh and every since I am have told others my tummy has ceased to belong to me. It is now public domain. Everyone touches "the baby". I don't mind DH saying hello, but to the rest of the world it really freaks me out. It only seems to get worst. This weekend I was shopping with my mom and she told the sales person I was expecting. And the lady actually rubbed my belly. I was like seriously I don't even know your name. I had a strong desire to rub her belly and see what she thought.

[southernmommie]

The question I HATE is: "This is going to be your last one, right?" I got that one from my parents after the second one is born. Now they don't even ask that one. But others still do. I'm SO GLAD that no one has tried to rub my belly with this one! With each pregnancy, I get more and more protective and don't want to be touched by strangers.

[Mrs.Music]

Originally Posted by babyjelly

Oh, don't get me started on "Is it your first?" I'm young- 26- and look younger, so when I reply, "No, it's my fourth"...I get either a wide-eyed "Oh. Wow." or a lecture on birth control X(
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I'm 23. I'm often mistaken for a teenager. And this is my 3rd. You can imagine the responses I get. And have gotten. With my first, people kept asking if my parents were supportive etc because they thought I was 15. I was married. hehe. Since we found out #2 was a boy, I kept getting "so he's your last?" and "Oh one of each, so you're done now." This time people keep asking if we're done. I don't know. Maybe? None of your business? We'll probably keep having sex so there is always the possibility another one of these guys will sneak up on us...