My Circumcision Decision Tree - Page 2

[mommyfied]

Sorry, I just skimmed, but if this wasn't shared yet you need to check it out:
http://www.udonet.com/circumcision/v...ty_of_men.html

My DH is completely against us not circ'ing our son and I stood firm. As every day goes by, the more firm I become in this decision. Seeing DS and imagining putting him through a procedure like that for purely cosmetic reasons just makes me sick. Someone has a signature here: "Circumcision: The more you know, the worse it gets." IT'S SO TRUE.

I am trying to soften up DH so this won't be such a sore issue for him as DS grows up. Yesterday I was talking about how DS's penis is so perfect. DH's response... "Well, if he's so perfect, that means I'm not." I think that sums it up! I don't think he even realized what he admitted. So you are really dealing with DH's psychological issues. This is his manhood we are talking about. It's hard to get past that. BUT that's HIS problem... You don't need to make it your son's problem too.

[Mama2Kayla]

Originally Posted by mommyfied

This is his manhood we are talking about. It's hard to get past that. BUT that's HIS problem... You don't need to make it your son's problem too.

This really stood out to me and I wanted to say

[Fyrestorm]

Originally Posted by homebirthing

"Do you feel that it is important that you look like YOUR dad? Do you have a time every year to make sure that your penises match?" The answer (after laughter) is always "eww" and "no". That takes away that argument.

It should be LACK like dad, not LOOK like dad

[jess_paez]

Originally Posted by rachelsmama

Chances are, he'll be more likely to be teased for being cut than for being intact. I know that at my brother's university, what little foreskin related teasing that happens is most definitely against the circumcised guys.

and also, as the wife of my intact dh-i definitely feel more pleasure than compared to the other 2 circed guys i've been with. this decision not only affects your son, it will affect his future partner as well.

[triscuitsmom]

Other people have covered all of the stuff I would have, I just have one thing to add.

#5 (looking like Dad) makes absolutely NO sense to me now that I have kids of my own (I hadn't really thought about it before that). Both of my sons are intact. So is their Dad. They actually do take showers with him fairly frequently by virtue of the fact that he's been able to be home with us a fair amount because of parental leave for the better part of a year after birth. Mama after nursing/being touched all day prefers to shower alone

So my point is that they have seen DP naked, and my almost 4 year old has commented on how much different his Dad's penis looks to his. Because when it comes right down to it the foreskin is the least of what the kid is noticing likely. Adult penises and little boy or baby penises just do not look alike, even if they are both intact (or even if they are both circed).

[BugMacGee]

At this point in my life, I really struggle with the "pros" of circumsicion. To me, there just aren't any. I've seen so many complications from interrupting the breastfeeding relationship (at a crucial time!) to bleeding requiring sutures, to a penis becoming grossly infected and turn black.

For what????

Frankly, I'm really quite disgusted with our culture's persistence in carrying on this barbaric tradition.

Sorry for the rant. But show me the benefits that outweigh the damage I've seen. You can't.