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being naked in front of your toddler

post #1 of 21
8/12/10 at 3:01pm
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DS just turned 2 and we still shower very often with him. I have never thought to be modest around him. But now, with him going to school 2 days a week, I am unsure whether to keep it going or not. Is there like an age cutoff, from a DSS standpoint, that you shouldn't be naked in front of your child? I feel like I am oblivious on this one as to when developmentally it would be appropriate to start being more modest.
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post #2 of 21
8/12/10 at 3:03pm
I have a 6-year-old and a 2-year-old and me and DH still have no problem being naked in front of the kids. I figure if one of them starts to act uncomfortable about it we'll do something different, but until then...
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post #3 of 21
8/12/10 at 3:50pm
My oldest is 5 and I have no problem with it. He no longer showers with me but he does see both his dad and I naked. I figure once I or he is uncomfortable with it, then it is fine.
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post #4 of 21
8/12/10 at 3:52pm
Both my mother (American) and my MIL (German-born) are still happy to be starkers in their own homes, and DH and I have yet to develop any issues because of it.
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post #5 of 21
8/12/10 at 5:34pm
My DD is almost 2 and I'll probably be naked around her until she can shower on her own. Even if she did smack my butt and say "Uck" the other day while we were showering.
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post #6 of 21
8/12/10 at 5:35pm
Naked isn't bad or dirty. It only is if you make it so. Honestly, the only thing I worry about ds1 (3.5) is when he says adorable things like "momma, your boobies are dangly!" sigh, he's the one that made them that way!
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post #7 of 21
8/12/10 at 7:18pm
I'm not a hang-out-nekkid person but if I have a reason to be unclothed I don't see why it's a big deal. I will change my behavior when/if I or my kiddos feel uncomfortable.
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post #8 of 21
8/12/10 at 8:04pm
I think being naked is totally fine, until either you or the kiddos are uncomfortable with it.

I love being naked, and so do my kids! ages two and four.
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post #9 of 21
8/12/10 at 8:16pm
I don't think is a right/wrong answer for this, in my opinion is more about when one of the involved parts feel uncomfortable (your kid, husband or you).
In Mexico (where I was born) public saunas are very popular and also kind of tradition.
I saw my mom and many other woman and girls all ages naked and nobody (at leat nobody that I notice) see it as dirty (sorry I mean to say other word but I can't remember the name, but is like a taboo).
However, my kids have never been in any of those, and it was my own daughter that start feel uncomfortable seeing me naked I think she was around 7 and about 8 she wouldn't feel ok if I saw her naked either, so at that point we both start respecting our privacy.
My husband never had be naked in front of any of our kids (12 and 2) he is just not comfortable and that is ok too.
Now, my 2 year old, hahaha she is so happy being naked and she laugh when she see me naked, don't ask why, lol.
So if I was you I will stop when any of you 3 feel uncomfortable, that is my opinion.
(damn, where are those silly faces? I for sure could have use a couple ones in this answer, lol)
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post #10 of 21
8/12/10 at 8:58pm
There's really not a time that it becomes inappropriate to be naked in front of your kids. By the time they are uncomfortable with it they probably aren't going to be showering with you or choosing to watch you change/go to the bathroom. I don't see why it would be different for step-children.

OT- I choose not to be naked or braless around my 2 year old because she just can't keep her hands off, which is incredibly annoying. She makes a game out of it when I say, "Please don't poke me there!" I'm wondering what I'm going to do when I breastfeed the new baby.
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post #11 of 21
8/12/10 at 9:05pm
Naked is not dirty. I still shower on occasion with my 6 yr old son. Not a big deal here.
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post #12 of 21
8/12/10 at 9:28pm
Dh and I are both naked in front of the kids frequently. Me more so, because I bathe with them. I probably won't stop until the children start to feel uncomfortable. I think I stopped taking baths with my mom around age 8 or so, so I'm guessing it will be awhile. Maybe a little before that if DS picks up at school that it's not "okay".
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post #13 of 21
8/12/10 at 9:47pm
I always get fingers in my butt crack

I have heard preschool is when they start to develop the idea of nakedness, and will leave for privacy. Until then, I don't see an issue! We aren't nudists, but we don't have air and it's really hot and humid here!
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post #14 of 21
8/12/10 at 11:18pm
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Originally Posted by holothuroidea View Post

OT- I choose not to be naked or braless around my 2 year old because she just can't keep her hands off, which is incredibly annoying. She makes a game out of it when I say, "Please don't poke me there!" I'm wondering what I'm going to do when I breastfeed the new baby.
Haha, my daughter does the same thing! As soon as I take my shirt off she runs to play with my breast, I mean is funny the first minute but after that I feel like a toy!
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post #15 of 21
8/12/10 at 11:20pm
Oldest is 7 and while she doesn't want non-family members to see her without clothes now, she doesn't care about us. DH and I still shower with her at times and we all sleep naked.
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post #16 of 21
8/13/10 at 9:14am
My DDs (4.5 and 2 years) don't shower with me, but they sometimes see me naked when I get out of the shower/get dressed. I don't walk around my house naked, though. My DS would NOT like it one bit, and besides I'm not a "nekkid" type.
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post #17 of 21
8/13/10 at 9:27am
Now that DD is 3, we try to keep nakedness (below the waist, as I've got a ) to same-sex showers. DD showers with me, DS showers with DH. We aren't comfortable with DD seeing her daddy naked. When DS is older, I won't be comfortable being naked in front of him (except for exposed breasts for nursing). I think, if you're not comfortable don't do it.
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post #18 of 21
8/13/10 at 9:35am
Mine is still itty bitty but I can speak for my experience growing up. I remember my dad being naked around the house until I was probably 8 or so. My mom, sisters, and I pretty much had a naked = ok policy as well as an open door bathroom routine until we all moved out.
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post #19 of 21
8/13/10 at 9:54am
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Originally Posted by kriket View Post
I always get fingers in my butt crack
Ha! This is Chase, he plays with things that jiggle, including my butt cheeks when I dance in the shower!

Ok, thanks for the reassurance. I am fine with it and I am a nakey person...again, another one of those things to take his lead on!
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post #20 of 21
8/13/10 at 10:33am
We don't hide nudity from our 8 year old who's in 3rd grade in public school. I'm quite sure he never talks about it because, for him, it's just normal. Why talk about it?
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