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DH never wanted to co-sleep ,ever, he cherishes his sleep ans is very grouchy without it. He did not come from a nurturing, snuggly family (he is 2nd generation japanese) and so I think that is where the problem lies. When ds was born in March 08 I told ds he would sleep with us because I wanted him close to make sure he was ok, reduce SIDS risk, and I was not getting up 15 times a night to go into another roon and nurse him. He reluctantly agreed and ds slept with us from then on. He has never been a good sleeper and would wake every hour to nurse. Fast forward to now..
we have dd now who is 3 months old. When she arrived dh said he refused to sleep with 2 in the bed. he does not mind the baby, but no ds. So ds is now in his own room across the hall. He continues to wake 3-4 times a night. The problem is now he wakes SCREAMING! He screams, gets out of bed and comes to our room. DH takes him back to his room to try and settle him (usually falling asleep with him). DH sometimes makes it back to our room, sometimes not, but is constantly complaining that ds is a horrid sleeper, that he needs sleep and he wants to just "let him scream his head off, he needs to learn to sleep on his own, every other child his age sleeps" I will not not allow him to scream, but I also need some sleep so I can't go comfort him when he wakes and the baby when she wakes too, I need a little sleep at least to function during the day with them.
Anyone have any sugestions to get ds to sleep better? He is 29 months and had been night weaned since 19 months, when I was hospitalized during the pregnancy with dd. He falls asleep nicely now most of the time with our routine (brush teeth, read 3 books, kisses and hugs) and falls asleep quickly. He usually starts waking around midnight. He does nap during the day for about 2 hours, and is very cranky when he does not nap, so he needs the nap. I need to keep the peace with dh while still helping and hurturing ds.
Please help!
DH never wanted to co-sleep ,ever, he cherishes his sleep ans is very grouchy without it. He did not come from a nurturing, snuggly family (he is 2nd generation japanese) and so I think that is where the problem lies. When ds was born in March 08 I told ds he would sleep with us because I wanted him close to make sure he was ok, reduce SIDS risk, and I was not getting up 15 times a night to go into another roon and nurse him. He reluctantly agreed and ds slept with us from then on. He has never been a good sleeper and would wake every hour to nurse. Fast forward to now..
we have dd now who is 3 months old. When she arrived dh said he refused to sleep with 2 in the bed. he does not mind the baby, but no ds. So ds is now in his own room across the hall. He continues to wake 3-4 times a night. The problem is now he wakes SCREAMING! He screams, gets out of bed and comes to our room. DH takes him back to his room to try and settle him (usually falling asleep with him). DH sometimes makes it back to our room, sometimes not, but is constantly complaining that ds is a horrid sleeper, that he needs sleep and he wants to just "let him scream his head off, he needs to learn to sleep on his own, every other child his age sleeps" I will not not allow him to scream, but I also need some sleep so I can't go comfort him when he wakes and the baby when she wakes too, I need a little sleep at least to function during the day with them.
Anyone have any sugestions to get ds to sleep better? He is 29 months and had been night weaned since 19 months, when I was hospitalized during the pregnancy with dd. He falls asleep nicely now most of the time with our routine (brush teeth, read 3 books, kisses and hugs) and falls asleep quickly. He usually starts waking around midnight. He does nap during the day for about 2 hours, and is very cranky when he does not nap, so he needs the nap. I need to keep the peace with dh while still helping and hurturing ds.
Please help!
He just screams for a half hour... we started noticing that sometimes he passes gas right before he calms down, but it seriously took us a year of that before we noticed. Hope something works for you. 
