so...help me worry less...please

[e&tsmom]

I am 12w4d pg with #3 and very excited. But, the excitement has been lessened b/c I seem to spot every couple of weeks. Very frustrating! We have now seen the baby on u/c 3 times, heard the heartbeat 2 times. I just had the 1st tri screen this mornign and everything was fine. The spotting has been mostly brown to super light brown/pink but last Sunday it was bright red. I was still spotting with small clots up until today. Nothing. Woohoo. Took my kiddies to the pool after an awesome u/s and feeling great. The, little kid #2, age 3, decided to go too far into the deep end. He wasnt drowning, but he was scared and he was having a hard time keeping his mouth out of the water. He head was bent back as far as it could go. So, I had to jump in and get him!! Of course - I had not choice, but now I am spotting. Not too bad, but I know that is what caused it right now. But, clearly the spotting is not being caused by the baby, right, because he/she was just in there kickin away this mornig after I had been spotting for so long. So, they didnt check, or tell me about where the placenta was or anyting. I am supposed to go on vacation on Sunday with the kids for a week , without DH (he has to work), and I am worried. But, the doc told me at this point if something hppend there is nothing they can do to stop it, so I know I should go. Actually, that is not the real question. My real question is that i want someone to tell me that even though I have all this spotting, this kid will stick around. I have had a feeling that things would be fine, I have been praying that this baby will stay put and be fine, but I am worried now that i k know I didnt spot and then did again after jumping. Help reassure me f you can. PLease!!

[baby3in2011]

sorry you are having the spotting. do you generally do much throughout the day? heaving lifting? over exertion? that always made me spot with my other pregnancies and this time around i just refuse to do too much. i can't say i have any words of reassurance other than sometimes spotting just happens and doesn't always mean something bad will happen, i understand that it will keep you worried though, and that is the pits.

[karen1968]

The good thing is that you are 12+ weeks and babe is doing great. That likely means the bleeding is not affecting him/her. Did they know, at the scan, that you'd had spotting and clots? I'm surprised the didn't do a thorough placenta check. I'm not super experienced, but my first thought was a subchorionic hemorrhage.

And to reassure you - my mw had spotting/bleeding throughout her last pregnancy and now has a healthy school-aged son. It can happen! HTH.

[e&tsmom]

Thanks ladies,

I was kinda thinking maybe a subchorionic hemorrhage, but that was just my own diagnosis after looking up stuff on the internet (of course, still not ever the best idea!). No, they didnt know about the spotting or clots. My regular doc does and said it just sometimes happen. She drew me a pic showing blood behind the placenta. Shoot, I think that is where it was. It was behind something. That has to be it. She just said sometimes it happens and lots of times it goes on to stop and then the pregnancy continues as normal.

Actually, it is the summer so I have been off work. I have 2 preschoolers and while they keep me busy, I rest when they rest and I get in bed at 7 when they do. So, I have not been doing a whole lot. The times I spotted before this last time I was practically doing nothing because I was so sick. Then, right after I stopped spotting at 10 weeks I felt better and have been exercising, doing more around the house and with the kids and everything was fine.

Then, Sunday, the bright red happened after I rode a tractor to where we go to pick peaches. It was quite bumpy and I carried a bunch of peaches and groceries that day, but it didnt seem like it was too much at all. Then, bright red spotting on Sunday and spotting ever since.

Today, I did exert myself to go and get my kid out of the deep end of the pool, and now the spotting again (I didnt have it at all today until after the jump). Does that sound like it could be from a Sub hem? I mean, do you spot mroe after exertion with that? I also thought about placentia previa, but that doesnt happen this early, right?

I just so want this to be okay.

Thank for the replies.

[baby3in2011]

i haven't had a sub hem so i cant say which causes more spotting. maybe try super hard to do nothing the next few days and see if the spotting stops, then if it does and you do something like pick up something heavy or do a lot and the spotting comes back maybe that can help figure out what it is. i've got 2 toddlers myself so i know how hard it is to not get a chance to relax. good luck mama i hope you stop spotting and everything is fine.

[cchrissyy]

I don't think you need to worry. first, because you are so far along and baby has looked good on the US. and second, because spotting can be normal during pregnancy, and worrying about it doesn't help anything.

[St. Margaret]

I bled and spotted sooooo much the first several weeks with DD. She's a wonderful 3yo now! Seeing the heartbeat does mean really good things. I do remember that awful feeling of trying to NOT overdo it, like it would somehow bring on the bleeding. Distracting myself with relaxing, easy projects helped... but of course only when I could do that kind of stuff!

[Yuba_River]

I have spotted a great deal with both my DS and this current pregnancy. It is super stressful, but it seems to be very common. In my case, I think it is just that I have a cervix that bleeds very easily, so any jostling can bring on the spotting. It sounds to me like you'll be fine. I know it's hard, but try to relax about it as much as you can.

[e&tsmom]

Thanks so much ladies. I am feeling a bit better. Luckily, I'll be at my MIL's for a week and there i know I'll really be able to rest! I appreciate the responses!