WWYD in this situation?

[MommytoB]

Anyways, there is going to be a close member leaving the family that is someone who is really close to my boy so the member don't want open truth to my boy about that the person left the family and more likely my boy won't be able to see that member again because that member will be a ex to someone in our family .

The family member just wants to say that member has gone away with friends, trips of hunting etc instead of saying that the member is moving out .

Last time when it seemed it was going to happen I was honest with my ds about it then it didn't happen then my ds blurt it out which was in front of the person who decided to stay with them which ticked off that person.

So I just don't want to tick off that person and many times people say kids understand things differently as in don't see things as an adult.

With my boy I was open & honest with my son about death aproaching his grandpa then when grandpa died he saw him at the funeral he understood grandpa wouldn't come back and he tried to straighten his cousin out who was told that her grandpa was just sleeping because he was sick so she thought her grandpa was going to get better . Brendan was going he's not going to come back and is open at times saying he misses grandpa .

I think it's because since I'm a single mom and he hasn't had seen his dad in 3 years so he understands about people not being around which he does still miss him . He does wonder why his dad doesn't come to visit .

[lyterae]

My parents recently separated and my mom has moved several states away. We told B. that Nana had gone on a vacation initially because we weren't sure how permanent it would be.. Once things are finalized we will tell her, but for now it has been sufficient to say that Nana has moved away and is currently staying somewhere else. She seems to take it pretty straight forward. I'm trying to be as honest as I can be without giving her false information.

I'm sorry that you and your son are going through this

[starbuckmom]

We were/are in that situation right now with my sil and her friend. They lived together for 8 yrs and my ds referred to him as Mr D. (he used his full first name, not just D). Anyways, the relationship became abusive and other things were happening and my sil had had enough and kicked Mr D out. I approached my ds before my sil could and just said that Mr D wasn't going to my inlaws farm the first time we all went up there after D moved out. I didn't want to go further cause knowing my sil and D, I didn't know how long it would last. My sil has been great about standing her ground and not allowing D back in her life. My ds hasn't asked about Mr D at all. I know there will be a day in the near future that I will need to explain that Mr D won't be able to visit anymore and that he and Aunt A aren't "friends" anymore.

I am sure over time his memory of Mr D will fade, that is if Aunt A doesn't mention him.

[FillingMyQuiver]

My brother and SIL recently separated and will be divorcing in the near future. My kids loved playing w/ Aunt D when they saw her, and she interacted well w/ them.

We were honest w/ our kids. We told them in age appropriate terms that Uncle S and Aunt D weren't going to be married anymore. When asked why they weren't married anymore, we told them that Aunt D had hurt Uncle S (my SIL was unfaithful) and that while they had tried to fix their relationship, it didn't work out. But my children do understand that toxic family members are not welcome in our lives, I have no relationship w/ my birthfather b/c of his treatment of me, and we've discussed that w/ our older children.

In the beginning, while you're trying to determine if this is a permanent situation, I think it's okay to frame the explanation as "X is away on a trip", but if the situation does become permanent, I think it's best to be honest.

My kids asked if Aunt D would be their aunt anymore, and DH and I explained, that no, she would not, and they would not see Aunt D anymore. Initially they were a little upset, but we reinforced that Uncle S would always be their uncle b/c he's my brother, and they were relieved and accepting of the situation.