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Just sad. And need to post where someone understands.

post #1 of 16
Thread Starter 
This is just a petty vent....I'm just sad that I had to leave another event (baby shower...that I, against my better judgement, brought DD to at the urging of the mama-to-be) early, because of a meltdown (DD, 4.5....SPD, articulation disorder....more, but no dx), with people staring. Meddling MIL trying to 'help'. And then feeling incredibly jealous of the parents-to-be and how happy they are. It's just been a rough coupla days.
post #2 of 16


I totally understand. I'm sorry it's tough.
post #3 of 16
sorry mama, sounds pretty sucky.

try to remember that you and your family are the # 1 priority and other people come second. when making decisions think: is that gonna be the best possible decision for me? my kid? if yes then consider what the other people want if, no... well they don't really matter that much.

I've been there too. I'm sure there were people there who understood and wished to help and nbot only the others who we dont want to know what they were thinking.
post #4 of 16
Big hugs to you, mama. Been there, felt that, many times.
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post #6 of 16
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Originally Posted by gilamama View Post

try to remember that you and your family are the # 1 priority and other people come second. when making decisions think: is that gonna be the best possible decision for me? my kid? if yes then consider what the other people want if, no... well they don't really matter that much.
great advice, something I need to make a priority.

To the OP, I've been there so many times.
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post #8 of 16
I have been there. I do believe that people understand, but in the moment if feels like everyone is judging. With my daughter, aunts who I swear thought I was a terrible parent, told me that my dd is lucky to have such patient calm parents I am sorry you had to miss the rest of the shower.
post #9 of 16
Sigh, I can totally relate. It seems like there isn't a day that passes that DS1 doesn't totally loose it in a public place and embarrass me. People can be so judgmental, but everyone here understands.
post #10 of 16
(((hugs)))

Been there many times with my ADHD/SPD sensory seeker. Other people really don't understand and the "help" can seem very judgmental even though it may not be meant that way.

Everyone here can relate, I think.
post #11 of 16
Hugs - BTDT - just today - and it is soooo tiring. . .

Hang in there beachbaby.

Samm
post #12 of 16
Thread Starter 
Thanks, everyone.
I'm feeling better now. It's just such a mix of emotion....embarrasment, jealously, exhaustion (just wishing it could be easy for once), and sadness for DD that she feels so overwhelmed. She melted down partly because of sensory stuff and specifically because, in her words, because she wasn't getting any presents. "Why does the baby get presents and I don't?" She feels everything so intensely.
post #13 of 16


If it helps, age 4-5 is a really hard age for kids to watch others get presents, whether they're typically developing or not. Having SPD probably intensifies things and makes it harder.
post #14 of 16
That really sucks. I hope tomorrow is a better day for you two.
post #15 of 16
Just stumbled in here from new posts, and wanted to let you know that I've had to do that a number of times and my kids have no special needs or other issues, aside from being kids. Everyone should have been understanding, and if I were there, you would have had my utmost sympathy, not judgment.
post #16 of 16
I've totally been there and I'm sorry, it's no fun at all. My ds is 4 1/2 also and we go almost no where with him cause of the constant meltdowns, it's awful and I feel like a prisoner in my own home. Hugs to you!!!
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