I just need to get this out somewhere and since I'm sick and stuck in bed. I figure why not do it here. There used to be a birth mom support group here, but I haven't seen it in a long time.
I am a birthmom to two kids. An almost four year old girl and an almost two year old boy. I think in general I've coped with the adoptions well. I have regrets, but there's nothing I can do about it so I try not to dwell. Sometimes I think about how much my dd would enjoy having her sibling here and how great it would be to be with them. Sometimes I cry, but not very often anymore. Most of the time though the thought of trying to raise three kids on my own gives me a panic attack and then I'm kind of thankful that they are where they are.
One thing I did right was find amazing AP parents for both of them. My birth kids are loved so much and they both fit in great with their large families. It's sad to think about how my dd will probably always be an only though, she's missing out on a lot of what they have.
And I miss my son much more than I miss my daughter. That makes me feel so low/guilty sometimes. She was placed at birth and he was placed at 16 months old. I get along with her family and his family and I are currently not speaking to each other. His adoption really was a big mistake and living with that is hard at times.
I have spoken with therapists and all that. It's hard to get a therapist who knows anything worth while about birth parent issues but I've had a couple that were ok. I guess I just wanted to share here where some others might understand. In general I avoid birth mother forums because the vibe there is usually so depressing and angry (very understandable).
All of my kids birthdays are coming up so I suppose that's why this is on my mind so much lately.
I am a birthmom to two kids. An almost four year old girl and an almost two year old boy. I think in general I've coped with the adoptions well. I have regrets, but there's nothing I can do about it so I try not to dwell. Sometimes I think about how much my dd would enjoy having her sibling here and how great it would be to be with them. Sometimes I cry, but not very often anymore. Most of the time though the thought of trying to raise three kids on my own gives me a panic attack and then I'm kind of thankful that they are where they are.
One thing I did right was find amazing AP parents for both of them. My birth kids are loved so much and they both fit in great with their large families. It's sad to think about how my dd will probably always be an only though, she's missing out on a lot of what they have.
And I miss my son much more than I miss my daughter. That makes me feel so low/guilty sometimes. She was placed at birth and he was placed at 16 months old. I get along with her family and his family and I are currently not speaking to each other. His adoption really was a big mistake and living with that is hard at times.
I have spoken with therapists and all that. It's hard to get a therapist who knows anything worth while about birth parent issues but I've had a couple that were ok. I guess I just wanted to share here where some others might understand. In general I avoid birth mother forums because the vibe there is usually so depressing and angry (very understandable).
All of my kids birthdays are coming up so I suppose that's why this is on my mind so much lately.
I'm guessing that with so many views and no replies...that maybe there aren't that many other birthmoms left around MDC. Or maybe it's just because it's a weekend.
