3.75 yr old ds climbing all over me all the time!

[Karamom]

I have been getting so irritated at ds because he is always trying to climb on me. It really drives me batty. Examples:

When we wake up in the morning and I'm laying in bed trying to wake up. He sits on my head, jumps on my stomach, generally jumping all over the bed.

I bend down to help dd put on her shoes and he jumps on my back and pulls on my neck.

I'm trying to eat my dinner and he climbs on my lap, starts stepping all over me, jumping on top of me.

I try to give him lots of hugs. I love cuddling with him- when he lays still, which is rare. I try to give him lots of park time to get his energy out.

I really can. not. stand. it. I will tell him to get off at least 10 times and he will not listen at all. I try to gently remove him but he either clings to me or jumps right back on.

I usually end up getting really mad and pushing him off- it's partly an intrinsic response because it really hurts. And yelling something like "I told you to get off of me!" Then he runs away crying and yelling "why are you so angry with me?" Because I told you 3434897 times how much I HATE it when you jump on me, pull my neck etc.

I have trying talking with him about it many times and I just don't know what to do. TIA.

ETA: He also does this to DH and to grandma.

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I don't think there's anything wrong with firmly removing him from you. (BEFORE you get mad) Do it immediately, every time, and he will eventually stop this habit. None of you owes him the right to climb on you. He's pretty big (not a toddler) and "No means no".

I also think that he might need to be roughhoused with. I really believe that some kids really NEED to be thrown and wrestled and play fight. It shouldn't be when he's disrespecting you, but just sometimes for fun. I know kids who love to be tossed into bean bags, or just want to wrestle. Grandma probably doesn't want to wrestle. But, maybe you and dad would have some fun. (call it cardio)

[Karamom]

I do try to remove him before I get mad. But he either clings and will not let go or he climbs right back on. I do stand up so he can't reach me but I don't always want to do that because sometimes I need to sit down and rest. I'm preg 1st tri. right now and always feel nauseous and light headed.

He probably does need to play wrestling games. I really cannot play those kinds of games. I really hate them. I detest them. I hate the feeling of someone else on top of me and I can't get up. Even if it is playing- I just feel all panicky inside also like I said not feeling too well right now. Maybe I can talk dh into it but I have a feeling he won't want to much either. Humm...

ETA: I have talked with him over and over again about no means no, when someone says stop, both people have to be ok with a game, etc. but he doesn't get it. He just keeps saying "but I don't want to stop!"

[Karamom]

The whole him not understanding no means no thing goes beyond this. For instance earlier to today he was chasing dd around with the hand vac and she was obviously upset about it. When I took the vac away he was all upset saying that he was having fun scaring her.