"Getting to Calm: Cool-headed Strategies for Parenting Tweens & Teens"

[LynnS6]

I heard a story about this book on NPR this morning.

Has anyone read it? I'm intrigued and will probably see if I can get it from the library, but thought I'd solicit reviews first. I was just waking up, so I didn't hear the whole thing, but I loved this line:

"We don't want to drive under the influence of alcohol, and we don't want to talk to our loved ones under the influence of extreme emotion."

[Surfacing]

[journeymom]

Nope, I haven't read it. I liked this from the link:

Fighting is not necessarily a measure of a bad relationship between a mom and daughter. Moms can be very hurt by what comes across as a form of rejection, but when surveyed later, many girls who quarreled regularly with their moms say they have a close, supportive, and valued relationship. In other words, daughters are spoiling for a fight in order to separate, but they still want the connection.

I remember feeling that way with my mom. I wanted to be able to push, push, push against her, like a chick struggling out of an egg. I needed her to be strong enough for me to fight with.

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Ahahahaha! Dh just called me from work to tell me he sent me a link to an article he knew I'd like. It's this very same one! He said he heard the article on the radio this morning (I slept through it completely, sometimes I remember hearing the radio.), and he was late getting out the door because he didn't turn on his shaver until the article was done. That's awesome. I guess I'm going to have to find the book now.

[journeymom]

I'm going to post this link over at the 'Tweens and Teens thread.

[LynnS6]

Originally Posted by journeymom

I'm going to post this link over at the 'Tweens and Teens thread.

Good idea! I probably should have started there. Our ds is 9, so I'm not quite ready for 'Tweens and Teens! (OK, OK, so ds is getting close to a tween, I am so not ready to go there....)

[Surfacing]

Just read over most of that article but not all of it. Oh man, my dd1 and I are both live-wires. We are already having big ole fights at times...