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Help me brainstorm sleeping arrangement changes.

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We have two boys in our room with us, ages 25 months and 11 months. The older one sleeps in a crib, as he has since he was about 5 months old (his preference), The younger one cosleeps- and while he will nap in a pack and play occasionally, he is not thrilled about it.

While this arrangement is ok-ish for the moment, it's not working well for me in terms of getting sleep, or for my youngest in terms of the safety he needs. I woke last night to find him snuggling UNDER my dh's arm. I moved him, but noticed a burst blood vessel in his eye this morning. Obviously, before bed tonight, something will be different.

We have a king size bed on boxsprings, but not on a frame as it's quite high even without the frame. I would like to put one twin mattress on the floor beside my side of the bed and one on the floor at the end of the bed. The room is small and this will take up most of the floor space, but we don't *need* a lot of floor space in there.

Alternatively, I would consider putting a low loft bed beside our bed with a mattress underneath the low loft on the floor. This would free up floor space, but I'm not sure which child would sleep where as they are both so young that even the 3' drop scares me- though if directly beside the bed, they would fall onto the bed instead of onto the floor.

I do have a crib mattress and a brand new toddler bed frame as well and maybe I should consider that as an option as well, though again, I don't know which child to put where. I would like to put away the crib at this point as the two year old can swing a leg over the top rail and I *know* the 11 month old will not tolerate a crib.

Soo.. help!
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We have our 19 month old on a twin wedged between our king and the wall (both on the floor). It's working well for us at the moment, and I'm not concerned about falls because it's only about a foot.

Have you considered putting your king directly on the floor (take away the boxsprings) and putting one twin on the side and one at the foot (or maybe even the head?)
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We have our 19 month old on a twin wedged between our king and the wall (both on the floor). It's working well for us at the moment, and I'm not concerned about falls because it's only about a foot.

Have you considered putting your king directly on the floor (take away the boxsprings) and putting one twin on the side and one at the foot (or maybe even the head?)
This is pretty much what we did yesterday afternoon- though DH wanted the boxsprings to stay. So we moved it over, and put one twin right beside it on the floor- that is where our youngest is 'supposed to sleep'. Of course, it went over like a lead balloon and he slept in our bed as usual.

The other mattress was placed against the wall, about 3 feet from the foot of our bed, and our 2 yo loves it. He's still struggling to adjust to naps, but he slept all night without a problem. He discovered that he is able to get himself up in the morning and was thrilled at being able to crawl into bed with us.

This has all meant that there is nothing other than the beds in our room, but that's ok, and probably healthier than it had been. I felt a lot more peace last night knowing that DS1 couldn't climb/fall out of a crib, and that the room was so barren, it was/is a completely baby/toddler safe space.

My family thinks I am insane, and my mother really wants me to get them out of our room, but I know they still need us nearby, and to be honest, it's so much easier for us to parent them through the night when we are all together.
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I am so glad to hear that you've found a good solution! Hopefully your little one will catch on to the plan soon

And props to you for doing what you feel is best for your LO's despite your family's misgivings.. I know that can be tough sometimes!
post #5 of 5
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It's going really well DS 1 is napping well on his bed, and DS 2 actually slept almost half the night on his bed last night before coming into ours.



I love my boys, and I love having them close, but I've got to tell you, rolling over and stretching out felt AMAZING!
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