Question on how to change my boy habbit in when reacting to people ?

[MommytoB]

My boy gets really moody when someone is getting after him that he just walks of stomping off because no one is listening to him .

For example I was the only one who believed him that C pushed him because I saw it but C denied it and was saying hey you have to apologize or I will never be your friend again but B is waiting for C to apologize for pushing him but C won't and C's grandma saying C don't ever do anything like that your son is so rough with kids ! Your son has a temper big time that you need to fix it because he walks off with his ears covered as in ignoring things of what C's grandma says .

Now here my boy was trying to say hey this isn't Mine but it's not C's either so he shouldn't take it out but J is going if it's not yours then why does it bother you so much C will return it back when he comes back tomorrow so then again my boy stomps off with a mad face saying that he hates C's grandma .

So I know that C's grandma is one of those butting in Nosy Neighbors that like to try parent other kids or say your doing something wrong as a parent . she will say to me your son has quite a temper but who wouldn't when no one was listening to them wouldn't you be quite frustrated with them which I say it's good to walk away because if someone not going to listen to you why stay because you won't be able to get your word in ,so how do I get him to walk away peacefully ?

C's Grandma also is someone that drives me nuts because I get so annoyed to her she's lecturing me saying you got to remember what you say otherwise you will be turning into the bad person and I'm like why doesn't she listen to her own words and not be such a hypocrite because she told me not be parenting other kids because you are not their parents.

So why is she busy bossing other kids including mine when she told me not too ?

[RiverSky]

It doesn't sound to me as if you want to change your son's response to the Grandma, but that you want to change the way the Grandma treats your son. I'm confused about the title of this thread.

It would be incredibly helpful if you could actually mention how old these children are. Perhaps no one has answered yet because they didn't know how to respond. If the boys are 3, then it's an entirely different thing than if the boys are 7, or 11.

Also, where were you when this happened? At your house? At the Grandma's house? At a playground? Is the Grandma a neighbor? Why do you have to be around the Grandma, if you don't like her?

Honestly, I think you should have been your child's advocate in this matter. When I am somewhere and witness my child and another child get into an argument, I step in and try to mediate. If my child is getting upset, I take them aside, support them, ask what happened and if I can help, then I find a way to help. If the other parent/guardian steps in and I feel that they do not know the entire story, I say, "I saw what happened and I think the boys just need to talk it through" then I help them do it, or whatever.

If your son feels he is being fully backed up by you, and can count on you to do it every time, perhaps he won't get so upset at such incidents in the future.

Also, if that doesn't work, then perhaps it's time to simply leave the situation, and find other friends for your son to play with. If my son says, "I want to go outside and play with so-and-so", I could always remind him about what happened the last time and the time before, and suggest that we come up with someone else to play with, or something else for him to do, besides hanging out with the boy and his Grandma, who will not play nicely with him.

[RiverSky]

Originally Posted by MommytoB

C's Grandma also is someone that drives me nuts because I get so annoyed to her she's lecturing me saying you got to remember what you say otherwise you will be turning into the bad person and I'm like why doesn't she listen to her own words and not be such a hypocrite because she told me not be parenting other kids because you are not their parents.

So why is she busy bossing other kids including mine when she told me not too ?

As an adult, I love that I can simply choose to not hang out with people who aren't kind, don't respect me, aren't fun to be around, etc. I honestly wouldn't care why she does it, I simply wouldn't put up with it and would not spend time with her.

[MommytoB]

My son is 6 the boy C is going to be 9 in Dec . The grandma of C is the annoying neighbor and I have tried too fully talk to her as in stand up for my son but that Grandma only has her own view I can talk to her face to face about it but she will still have that as in seeing my boy as a bad kid with a temper the only reason he is having a temper is because she's not listening to him.

Also the more he reacts into being upset is more how it gets to have the grandma see oh look at him he's having a fit because he's an angry boy so she gets what she sees in my boy so if he learned just to not let himself show that her habbits bug him she will back off but if she can get a response she will continue .

I'm not wanting him to hide his feeling just talk them over with me which I try too but he gets so frustrated by the grandma that it will take awhile for him to calm down then I will finally talk to him he will know that i'm listening but it doesn't change his habbits .




The only way to avoid for my boy to be playing with C is to not have us be around 8 am -11:30 because C will be out in the morning but they won't be out when it's around 11:30 -3 or 3:30 because the Grandma of C makes him and his brother take a nap.

Then C will be back out around 3:30 so if I didn't want my boy to be playing with C he would end up having to be away from 3:30 -5 on T/Th and 3:30 -6 on the rest of the of the week as in MWF.

Also, the Grandma will pick on my boy even when C isn't out either .

So if I can't change the Grandma's way and she's a neighbor I can't really avoid .

The only way i could avoid her is by moving .

[Learning_Mum]

If it were me I would probably just try and keep B away from C as much as possible and tell C's Grandma to mind her own business if she started in on B.

He's 6yo. I'm not surprised he's storming off if she's telling him off and not listening. I think you could try and work on other skills with him but to be honest, it sounds like she wouldn't listen to him anyway.

It sucks to have difficult neighbours.