Back at work and struggling....

[poorlittlefish]

I just had to go back to work yesterday full time after having my DD 8 weeks ago. She is my second child but I was home 13 weeks with my first. I am really struggling. I need to keep working and I need to keep working full time so working less or at home or part time isn't an option but I really feel like I can't emotionally do this. My DH is home with the baby for 2 weeks and then she will join her sister at daycare. He is really having a hard time, she cries when she is with him and he can't seem to help her, she only sleeps in 10 minute chunks and she doesn't seem to love taking the bottle. Just thinking about her crying makes my stomach churn. I worry about when she goes to daycare if she can't soothe herself a little bit and I worry that I did something wrong by nursing her to sleep and holding her or sleeping with her through all her naps.

I don't know what I am looking for here, just hugs I guess.....

[Mosaic]

It's so hard. FWIW, 8 weeks is a notoriously fussy time, so it's possibly that this is just a 2-month growth spurt/phase and that it's not a reflection of you going back to work at all.

And of course you didn't do anything wrong by being attentive to her needs! If anything, you helped her be better prepared for the separation by being fully present with her before (and of course during the evenings now).

I hear you, though... my MIL is watching my newest baby to hold off daycare a bit, and it's so hard to turn them over to a center when they're so little!!

[BunnySlippers]

s to you, I remember 8wks as being fussy too.

I just wanted to say though, don't for one minute regret nursing your baby to sleep at night. Those are good moments and do not in anyway harm your child before during or after.
Hang in there.

[KSLaura]

It will get better! She'll get better. Both my kids went to daycare between 2 and 3 months old. My yougest also had a harder time at first. After the first couple of weeks though, she actually did really well.

[zuzunel09]

I'm so sorry, sweetie! I know exactly how you feel. It's so heartrending to know your little one is inconsolable and wants you, but also that your DH is doing his best. Big hugs!!