Originally Posted by minkajane
Jr'smom, that doesn't sound especially encouraging to me! You only have a chance if you go into labor early and dilate at superhuman speeds? That's ridiculous! Sounds like he's paying lip service to giving VBAC a shot while making sure that you're convinced that your highest likelihood by far is a repeat C/S. If you want to go for a VBAC, I'd just refuse to set a date for a C/S and show up whenever you go into labor and refuse a non-medically-indicated C/S. It sucks that you have to fight for something which should be your right - making your own medical decisions.
I'm 39+2 now and hoping for some supermoon action this weekend. My sister will be in town the evening of the 22nd and leaving the evening of the 23rd and won't be back in this part of the country until September. She will KILL me if I don't have the baby by then! I am dying of impatience - I'm 2 weeks farther along than I was when I had DS. If I were having a repeat C/S, I would have had the baby a week ago, but at least I'm not recovering from surgery, right?
Yeah, it's not exactly encouraging, but if you knew the resistance I've been fighting against around here, it actually is as encouraging as it gets. I don't think he feels any obligation to pay me lip service. He could just flat out say "no" like everyone else around here.
I have great MDs as our family doctors who are extremely pro-VBAC and anti-vax, BUT they no longer deliver babies at all because of legal reasons. Even when I was on my 3rd pregnancy and they were still delivering, they were unable to take a case after 2 C/S. They were the doctors who took care of me for my first two planned homebirths that ended in C/S. For the third pregnancy I had to find an underground homebirth midwife who preferred that I co-care with hospital midwives just in case. Well, I couldn't find any midwives or OBs who would even co-care to support a VBA2C. After paying $4000 out of pocket for this homebirth midwife, she refused to support me after I was ten days "late." I didn't hve any bad signs or anything--just a history of 2 C/S and large babies. She wanted me to lie to the hospital and say I was visiting from out of town and I keep going in and out of labor and want a C/S. I didn't do that, but I also didn't name her as the person who was supporting me in prenatal care, because she feared something--not quite sure what. That whole experience turned me off the idea of another planned homebirth with a midwife if that is the atmoshere around here. Would another midwife hesitate to transfer to the hospital if I needed to because of the VBAC climate in IL? I don't want to find out.
That left me with trying to find an OB who would support a VBA3C. I drove more than an hour in each direction of my house consulting with docs rumored to be VBAC supportive. All said "no" to even trying a VBA3C. The best they could offer was not scheduling the RCS until 42 weeks, allowing my baby to choose ther own birth date if I go into labor before then. The OB I'm with now, I found through ICAN. He's the only one who didn't flat out say "no." He actually considered my reasons for the previous C/S and not just the number of C/Ss. He said that he didn't think it was a good idea to plan a VBAC when I first consulted with him, but said we'd keep talking about it.
The fact that he's not even triying to schedule something yet, is better than I'd hoped for. I know it sounds disgusting to most people, but I've truly come to peace with the fact that I've tried as hard as I can to have VBACs each time--this one included. And this is the best I could do this time. The OB is actually very relaxed, and I think if I push hard he'll go with what I want in the end.
It will all play out soon.
Hope your baby comes soon! Sure would be nice for you and baby to get to visit with your sister.