Bleeding - Page 2

[annettemarie]

Annie, I am so, so sorry. I've had three missed miscarriages, all of them ending in D&Es. FWIW, I did not find it any more traumatizing than the miscarriage itself and it was better for me, emotionally and physically. The bottom line is that you have to do what feels right and best for you-- some women do OK waiting for their bodies to let go of the baby, and some women do better when they help their bodies let go. There's no right or wrong answer here, and I know you'll make the best decision for you.

You're in my thoughts and prayers. As a mama who has gone through it, my heart is hurting for you.

[myk]

i am sorry.

[MaryLang]

Originally Posted by annettemarie

Annie, I am so, so sorry. I've had three missed miscarriages, all of them ending in D&Es. FWIW, I did not find it any more traumatizing than the miscarriage itself and it was better for me, emotionally and physically. The bottom line is that you have to do what feels right and best for you-- some women do OK waiting for their bodies to let go of the baby, and some women do better when they help their bodies let go. There's no right or wrong answer here, and I know you'll make the best decision for you.

You're in my thoughts and prayers. As a mama who has gone through it, my heart is hurting for you.

This.
I've had 2 natural m/c's and one D&C for a missed m/c. They were equally traumatizing. The baby had been passed away for so long (with no bleeding or any sign that my body was letting go) that I was comfortable having the d&c. I also got pregnant again after one cycle (healthy all the way through), so somehow I feel like it must have been in Gods plan that things happened the way they did.

[AnnieA]

Ladies,

Thanks for all the kind words. It meant so much to log on here this morning and see all these messages.

We opted to do the D&E. When I woke up yesterday morning, I started to have some mild cramping like my period was going to start. It took all morning to get the D&E scheduled w/the doctor and the hospital. By the time I was in the hospital waiting to go back, the cramping had gotten worse. For our family, especially with the four older kids and all the back to school activities that are in full swing right now, I needed to choose the route that would give me the quickest recovery time.

The surgery took about 45 minutes and other than having my typical reaction to general anesthesia (I wake up sobbing and bawling every time regardless of the situation) it went well. It was very hard emotionally to go in to the hospital where I had planned to have my baby and then not leave with my baby. But I couldn't imagine this dragging on over days and possibly weeks. The bleeding last night and this morning has been so minimal. I feel much better this morning and hardly have any cramping.

DH has been amazing through this whole process. Before we went to the hospital yesterday he took me in his arms and said "We'll do this again." Then he proceeded to talk about he wants us to both be in better shape physically and emotionally before we try again. Having him say that we'll try again were words that I never thought I would hear come out of his mouth. Now I don't know when that will happen and honestly, I'm o.k. with there not being a timeline on it. I don't think I would want to get pregnant this next cycle. So I'm going to go back to charting for the time being.

For anyone that's had a later miscarriage, how should I mark that on FF? Should I just start a new chart?

With regard to our baby, I think that I've picked out a name for our sweet little one. We didn't know if it was a boy or a girl but we both had an intuition that it was a boy. One of the boy middle names that we were considering was Francis. I'm going to talk to DH when he wakes up but I think I would like to name our baby Francis. I want to go out later today and buy a special box to keep the few keepsakes that we have of Francis in. Also, I think I will encourage the kids to write a note to Francis or draw him a picture that they can add to the box.

Our sweet baby was wanted and loved dearly during his short time with us and we will miss him for the rest of our days.

[MarineWife]

((hugs)) Annie. That is so wonderful for you that your dh says he wants to do it again. I think it's probably a good idea to not try this next cycle. I think most docs recommend you wait at least 3 cycles after a D&C before trying again because the uterine lining needs time to build back up again. Here's some good info on what you can expect physically after a pregnancy loss.

In FF, if you mark menses, it should start another cycle for you. You may have to go back and mark miscarriage on the previous chart. I don't know that that is necessary for the s/w to start another chart but it may be necessary to have the chart labeled correctly for your records (if you want that).

[BarefootScientist]

Oh Annie I'm so sorry to hear this. I hope your recovery is short and easy. It is good news that your DH wants to try again sometime. Best wishes.