Ya know, after I posted this & read replies, I realized that my initial reaction to this as negative was because I was so disappointed in the poor PP support I got from my hospital-CNMs. It was really dreadful.
Originally Posted by MidwifeErika
Or if things are going great, sometimes it is just nice to have someone celebrate that with you.
So of the 3 CNMs, one was known for poor bedside manner. She was on-call the day after DS was born & came to talk to me about PP care. She said there were 3 things to discuss:
2. Birth control
We discussed #2 & I felt like a 14 year old! I felt she was being condescending & irritating. Um, yeah, I know if I don't want to conceive another child ASAP & I have sex with my husband, I need to take some action to prevent conception.
& yes, I know this whole unprotected-sex-can-lead-to-conception concept still applies after giving birth!
& #3 was an uncomfortable discussion. I had such an awesome birth experience - I was OVER THE MOON! haha! Literally, I couldn't stop thinking about it, I couldn't stop talking about it.
I remember literally struggling to suppress my grin as she discussed PPD in this serious tone of voice. (Because I know PPD IS a serious issue & a real concern.) Again, intellectually I realized
PPD is a serious thing, but I felt so overjoyed then, I wasn't worried about it at the time.
She did not share in any of my joy.
A simple, "Congrats! You seem overjoyed. That's fantastic! I'm sure you'll love motherhood! But let's talk about PPD too just in case
so you know what to look out for & just in case, you can make sure to get help if you do happen to need it in the future."
No, it wasn't like that at all. It was like, "Meg, get your head out of the clouds, suppress your joy & let's get serious here!"
I couldn't wait for her to get out of my room so I could return to my blissed-out state. Literally, her presence felt like a big rain cloud on my sunny family picnic.
& that is all to say nothing of the AWFUL LCs & her COMPLETELY SAYING NOTHING to me about perineal healing. I had a 1st degree tear, but the other CNM had said it was such a minor tear, she wasn't even going to suture it, but she did since it kept bleeding. So I was thinking it was "no big deal" & nothing to be concerned about. I didn't even know I was supposed to use a peri-bottle after urinating.
Of course, now I'm seeing a HB MW & obviously I expect a lot better care! So I need to let the past go & move forward. However, all
prenatals are at her home office so I wouldn't assume she'd do as many as 6 PP apts in my home. There is no way I'm driving up there at 2, and 4, and 6 weeks PP. It's 50 min each way for me. That's too much.