I am posting because this is something that I cant seem to let go of and when I think about it my heart aches terribly. My son nursed throughout my second pregnancy and fr three months after my second son was born at which point I weaned him abruptly. He was 33 months old and he was not ready to wean. When my milk dried up when I was three months pregnant I started feeling very irritated when he nursed and had to count in my head and set some limitations in order to get through it. He night weaned himself at about 2 and cut down drastically and was only nursing to sleep when the baby was born. After my milk came in again he wanted to nurse more.
The day DS2 was born I nursed them together for the first time and the negative sensations and irritation was gone. But that was the only time, after that I felt the same impatience and irritation every time he nursed and I used singing a song to limit the time. The problem came when he started refusing to stop when I said all done and I couldn't take that. I would end up crying and so would he at the end of every session. I feel it didn't help psychologically that all of my extended family thought he shuld have beeen weaned and was too old. Philosophically I disagreed but I couldn't get rid of that feelings that made it s hard to nurse him.
When he was 33 months old my husband proposed we have a weaning party because I didn't know what else to do. We went through with the party and explained the whole thing to him, but when bedtime came around he asked me "to come and give him snuggles and kisses and mama-milk" when I told him no that he couldn't have mama-milk any more his little face fell and he cred a minute and then went to sleep snuggling me. It took a long time for him to stop asking and I feel he would still be nursing now if it was his choice.
I wanted to let him wean himself, I wanted to provide him with everything that nursing is until he nolonger needed it, and it kills me that I pushed him away when he was still so little. I don't understand what happened. We have talked about it many times and he now thinks he is too big to nurse and has forgotten how but I am still not over it. I have considered letting him unwean but I feel like if I do I will feel the same way I did before and will have to wean him again or go crazy. It also feels strange to nurse a 3.5 year old when I haven't nursed a three year old.
If anyone has any words of wisdom they would be welcome.
My second son is only a year and come hell or high-water I will let him decide when to wean.
The day DS2 was born I nursed them together for the first time and the negative sensations and irritation was gone. But that was the only time, after that I felt the same impatience and irritation every time he nursed and I used singing a song to limit the time. The problem came when he started refusing to stop when I said all done and I couldn't take that. I would end up crying and so would he at the end of every session. I feel it didn't help psychologically that all of my extended family thought he shuld have beeen weaned and was too old. Philosophically I disagreed but I couldn't get rid of that feelings that made it s hard to nurse him.
When he was 33 months old my husband proposed we have a weaning party because I didn't know what else to do. We went through with the party and explained the whole thing to him, but when bedtime came around he asked me "to come and give him snuggles and kisses and mama-milk" when I told him no that he couldn't have mama-milk any more his little face fell and he cred a minute and then went to sleep snuggling me. It took a long time for him to stop asking and I feel he would still be nursing now if it was his choice.
I wanted to let him wean himself, I wanted to provide him with everything that nursing is until he nolonger needed it, and it kills me that I pushed him away when he was still so little. I don't understand what happened. We have talked about it many times and he now thinks he is too big to nurse and has forgotten how but I am still not over it. I have considered letting him unwean but I feel like if I do I will feel the same way I did before and will have to wean him again or go crazy. It also feels strange to nurse a 3.5 year old when I haven't nursed a three year old.
If anyone has any words of wisdom they would be welcome.
My second son is only a year and come hell or high-water I will let him decide when to wean.
