SAHM lonely in Nashua, NH

[MummaLitt]

I'm having a hard time with the loneliness and challenges of being a SAHM with 2 under 3yo. I'm looking for playgroups or even just a friend or two who actually want to get together occasionally.

We're semi-crunchy in that we co-sleep, baby-wear, extended breastfeeding, baby-led feeding/weaning, delayed/selective vax. We just had to stop cloth diapering because we don't have a w/d and the service was to expensive but I am hoping to get back to it when we move out of this apartment in April.

Anyone wanna be my friend?

xposted in my Tribe

[hotmamacita]

I understand.

I live too far away but I will be your online friend.

[PoetryLover]

Responding to your cross post. :-)

[macmoonshine~mama]

I am sorry you are feeling lonely, I identify. I am not yet a stay at home mom, but I will be soon. I am 8 months pregnant and have been a stay at home wife for almost a year. I live in a very rural area in PA and my husband works long hours, a few days a week. He will help me with chores I cant do on my own, but other than that it feels like he just wants to escape family life whenever he can. I understand his need for "space" but I am growing more lonely. Last night he asked me to go to a friends house with him. As I was standing in the bathroom dripping wet from a shower, trying to get ready, he made it clear that he didnt think I would want to go, and in fact he just wanted to go by himself. I felt so rejected. I am emotional and hormonal, lonely and desperate. I lived several years in a very diverse and "crunchy" town, with lots of friends and a healthy social life. Now, I barely leave the house. I am sorry to be a downer, but I am struggling for support. I hope your husband is supportive of you staying home, it is such an important thing to do for your family and children.

[PoetryLover]

Originally Posted by macmoonshine~mama

I am sorry you are feeling lonely, I identify. I am not yet a stay at home mom, but I will be soon. I am 8 months pregnant and have been a stay at home wife for almost a year. I live in a very rural area in PA and my husband works long hours, a few days a week. He will help me with chores I cant do on my own, but other than that it feels like he just wants to escape family life whenever he can. I understand his need for "space" but I am growing more lonely. Last night he asked me to go to a friends house with him. As I was standing in the bathroom dripping wet from a shower, trying to get ready, he made it clear that he didnt think I would want to go, and in fact he just wanted to go by himself. I felt so rejected. I am emotional and hormonal, lonely and desperate. I lived several years in a very diverse and "crunchy" town, with lots of friends and a healthy social life. Now, I barely leave the house. I am sorry to be a downer, but I am struggling for support. I hope your husband is supportive of you staying home, it is such an important thing to do for your family and children.

macmoonshine~mama, I'm sorry your husband is being so insensitive. Have you considered talking to him about your feelings? It's important to do things individually, but it's also important to do things as a couple and as a family. I find that, although I'm a homebody by nature, being home full time makes me want to get out more often than when I was working. For instance, I usually want to do something fun on the weekend and occasionally during the week, as well.

I encourage you to make new friends and establish a sense of community. Have you tried posting in your tribe? Every mama needs mama friends IRL. I know it's hard meeting new people, but it's the only way to break the lonely mama blues. I also recommend attending LLL meetings. I haven't gone myself yet, but it has been highly recommended to me. It is advisable to go before you have a baby, so that you have support during the beginning of your nursing relationship (if you choose to nurse).

Best of luck to you~

[larzanna]

Check out meetup.com too. Even if you don't find a group that has people as "crunchy" as you, it does give you an opportunity to get out and talk to people, do things and meet for palydates.