Ex has the weekend with the ds and dd1. We had an early appointment today, and then we had 3 hours to burn before the kids left. We went to the library for 2 hours and then to McD's because the kids wanted to play those games on the McD's computers. My dd went to the bathroom and sent my
dd2 back saying she needed me. I went to her and she had *started*.
I called her dad right away and told him the news. I told him that m dd wanted to stay at home while her brother went to his house. He had a fit, saying that she MUST come to his house, even if she was having her first period. My daughter got so angry at him for assuming that she would have to go that she said that she had questions to ask me. Her dad said that he could find women who could answer those question. He told her to come with him. She actually told him NO! She refused to go. He put his hand on her arm and told her to come again. She gripped the chair and refused to move. He started shouting at her, telling her if he let her stay, she had better come with him next weekend. I told him we weren't exchanging weekends over this because she was saying she didn't want to go. The police came out of their desks and told him if he couldn't stop shouting to take everything outside. He didn't want to go outside, and the repeated it again. Finally he told my daughter that he wanted to talk to her outside. She straight out refused to go out there, more shouting occurred, then he left swearing she had better be with him on Saturday. He did leave without taking her. I offered to let him take her on Tuesday night, bring back Wednesday morning, then Thursday night, come back Friday morning. He refused. He has taken the kids to work with him many times. He just wants me to allow him to pull the shots. Should I offer him another alternate? I truely feel that he was trying to call the shots, and not listening to me, what my schedule is ect.
The very fact that he suggested to my daughter that he could find another woman to help with her period, and that her mother didn't have any rights to helping her daughter with her first period, told me he is just trying to make life difficult. What judge would find this normal? Would anyone, any of you, a judge, attorney or whatever find it normal that dad insists on having daughter over when she has her first period, and when her mother is available to assist and give personal experience?
I'm sick of his behaviour. He threatened me that if my dd is not waiting for him next Saturday, that he will call the police. I'm just sad for my daughter who's father would not her to be with the person who she needs the most at this time. And I'm happy that my daughter decided what she needed and insisted that she would get that. She is a beautiful young lady. She did cry afterwards because she told me that she had never stood up to her dad for anything ever.
dd2 back saying she needed me. I went to her and she had *started*.
I called her dad right away and told him the news. I told him that m dd wanted to stay at home while her brother went to his house. He had a fit, saying that she MUST come to his house, even if she was having her first period. My daughter got so angry at him for assuming that she would have to go that she said that she had questions to ask me. Her dad said that he could find women who could answer those question. He told her to come with him. She actually told him NO! She refused to go. He put his hand on her arm and told her to come again. She gripped the chair and refused to move. He started shouting at her, telling her if he let her stay, she had better come with him next weekend. I told him we weren't exchanging weekends over this because she was saying she didn't want to go. The police came out of their desks and told him if he couldn't stop shouting to take everything outside. He didn't want to go outside, and the repeated it again. Finally he told my daughter that he wanted to talk to her outside. She straight out refused to go out there, more shouting occurred, then he left swearing she had better be with him on Saturday. He did leave without taking her. I offered to let him take her on Tuesday night, bring back Wednesday morning, then Thursday night, come back Friday morning. He refused. He has taken the kids to work with him many times. He just wants me to allow him to pull the shots. Should I offer him another alternate? I truely feel that he was trying to call the shots, and not listening to me, what my schedule is ect.
The very fact that he suggested to my daughter that he could find another woman to help with her period, and that her mother didn't have any rights to helping her daughter with her first period, told me he is just trying to make life difficult. What judge would find this normal? Would anyone, any of you, a judge, attorney or whatever find it normal that dad insists on having daughter over when she has her first period, and when her mother is available to assist and give personal experience?
I'm sick of his behaviour. He threatened me that if my dd is not waiting for him next Saturday, that he will call the police. I'm just sad for my daughter who's father would not her to be with the person who she needs the most at this time. And I'm happy that my daughter decided what she needed and insisted that she would get that. She is a beautiful young lady. She did cry afterwards because she told me that she had never stood up to her dad for anything ever.
I am glad she stayed strong and had you right there with her to support her.
I think celebrations are in order.
ya know those first periods can be kind of crazy...7-10 days even
