I'm asking about this for my cousin (she knows I am asking about this on her behalf). She needs some advice on how to handle a three year old whose jealousy towards her younger sister is getting "out of control." Her three year old daughter is having a very hard time with jealousy regarding her little sister and it's spilling over in her dealings with other children. I posted about her before when my cousin asked the guests to bring a gift for the older child to the birthday of the youngest child.
"Angie" is three years old. A very smart, articulate little girl. Smart as a whip! Her mother has caught her shaking pepper and salt into her sisters cereal when the mom turns her head. She hits her and pinches her. Sometimes when my cousin is looking and sometimes not. My cousin says Angie is doing things that go beyond what she considers normal for sibling rivalry. She repeatedly tells her mother mean things that she wishes would happen to her sister. She won't repeat what she's said because she said it's to vile and hurtful.
I've had the chance to witness Angie's behavior myself. I want to say she has always been good with DD and until recently was very pleasant to be around. When we go out I always bring snacks for both of them in their own containers. I witnessed her (she thought I wasn't looking) take snacks out of DD's hand and tell her, "It's mine now!" I told her if she wants to share we can share but she isn't to remove snacks from another persons hand. She said sorry and that was that. No biggie! Ten minutes later she starts to rub DD's face in an affectionate way. I thought how sweet until I bent down to pick up some money I dropped (she thought I couldn't see) and put her hands over DD's mouth!
The little girl who used to laugh all of the time is very sullen child and unhappy. She won't speak when she's spoken to and isn't playing well with others. She kicked a child in the playground and her mother doesn't want to take her anywhere because she does mean things to other children.
I've done what I can do in terms of watching the youngest so my cousin can spend some alone time with Angie but I was honest with my cousin and told her I can't have Angie around. After the hand over the mouth incident DD doesn't want to be around her and frankly, I don't want to be around her. For two weeks after the incident she repeated over and over, "Mama,Angie not nice. Angie not nice. No Angie mommy."
I am the mother of one child and have no experience with this. My cousin has no idea what to do about her daughters behavior. The pediatrician says it's normal and incorporate time outs which aren't working. She also spends time alone with Angie when she can. My cousin goes back to work full time after Labor day and is afraid to leave Angie in a daycare.
She's open to any suggestions. TIA.
"Angie" is three years old. A very smart, articulate little girl. Smart as a whip! Her mother has caught her shaking pepper and salt into her sisters cereal when the mom turns her head. She hits her and pinches her. Sometimes when my cousin is looking and sometimes not. My cousin says Angie is doing things that go beyond what she considers normal for sibling rivalry. She repeatedly tells her mother mean things that she wishes would happen to her sister. She won't repeat what she's said because she said it's to vile and hurtful.
I've had the chance to witness Angie's behavior myself. I want to say she has always been good with DD and until recently was very pleasant to be around. When we go out I always bring snacks for both of them in their own containers. I witnessed her (she thought I wasn't looking) take snacks out of DD's hand and tell her, "It's mine now!" I told her if she wants to share we can share but she isn't to remove snacks from another persons hand. She said sorry and that was that. No biggie! Ten minutes later she starts to rub DD's face in an affectionate way. I thought how sweet until I bent down to pick up some money I dropped (she thought I couldn't see) and put her hands over DD's mouth!
The little girl who used to laugh all of the time is very sullen child and unhappy. She won't speak when she's spoken to and isn't playing well with others. She kicked a child in the playground and her mother doesn't want to take her anywhere because she does mean things to other children.
I've done what I can do in terms of watching the youngest so my cousin can spend some alone time with Angie but I was honest with my cousin and told her I can't have Angie around. After the hand over the mouth incident DD doesn't want to be around her and frankly, I don't want to be around her. For two weeks after the incident she repeated over and over, "Mama,Angie not nice. Angie not nice. No Angie mommy."
I am the mother of one child and have no experience with this. My cousin has no idea what to do about her daughters behavior. The pediatrician says it's normal and incorporate time outs which aren't working. She also spends time alone with Angie when she can. My cousin goes back to work full time after Labor day and is afraid to leave Angie in a daycare.
She's open to any suggestions. TIA.
