I just spanked my 5 year old. Again. And I hate it.
The kid drives me utterly insane. This time it was stealing food. Again. And not just any food, but the cherries & whipped cream off his brother's birthday cake. This isn't the first time, he's done something like that, he ate all the icing off his own cake when it was in the fridge. He takes granola bars/chocolate/freezies...basically any kind of food he enjoys and hides & eats it. It's not like I don't let him have them, I just think he doesn't need 10 freezies a day or that maybe he should leave things alone if supper is in less than 20 minutes. I don't even have words for how incredibly angry this thing with taking food is making me. He also takes food that doesn't belong to him; stuff that is a special treat for someone (he also gets special treats sometimes, so it's not like he's taking them because he never gets them). I don't get it, I really don't. He eats pretty much constantly and if you tell him he can't have something right now (because he's just had one or it's supper, or whatever) he will grab one & open it anyway. If he's caught, he says he was getting it for someone else. If he isn't, he'll try to hide the evidence. I have no way to keep him out of the food. If we owned this place, I'd be getting a door with a lock installed on the kitchen.
I am just out of ideas for what to do with him and & I'm tired of losing it with him. I was doing a lot better earlier in the year before dh nearly died & was stuck in hospital for over 2 months, although I was still feeling like I'd gone horribly wrong with him and was turning out a psychopath (he also abuses both his older & younger brothers, bullies them, manipulates the older one...).
I want my patience back. I'm even trying taking magnesium, since stress depletes it & one of the symptoms of low magnesium is irritability.
The kid drives me utterly insane. This time it was stealing food. Again. And not just any food, but the cherries & whipped cream off his brother's birthday cake. This isn't the first time, he's done something like that, he ate all the icing off his own cake when it was in the fridge. He takes granola bars/chocolate/freezies...basically any kind of food he enjoys and hides & eats it. It's not like I don't let him have them, I just think he doesn't need 10 freezies a day or that maybe he should leave things alone if supper is in less than 20 minutes. I don't even have words for how incredibly angry this thing with taking food is making me. He also takes food that doesn't belong to him; stuff that is a special treat for someone (he also gets special treats sometimes, so it's not like he's taking them because he never gets them). I don't get it, I really don't. He eats pretty much constantly and if you tell him he can't have something right now (because he's just had one or it's supper, or whatever) he will grab one & open it anyway. If he's caught, he says he was getting it for someone else. If he isn't, he'll try to hide the evidence. I have no way to keep him out of the food. If we owned this place, I'd be getting a door with a lock installed on the kitchen.
I am just out of ideas for what to do with him and & I'm tired of losing it with him. I was doing a lot better earlier in the year before dh nearly died & was stuck in hospital for over 2 months, although I was still feeling like I'd gone horribly wrong with him and was turning out a psychopath (he also abuses both his older & younger brothers, bullies them, manipulates the older one...).
I want my patience back. I'm even trying taking magnesium, since stress depletes it & one of the symptoms of low magnesium is irritability.
