Mixed feelings about NIP earlier today...

[velcromom]

I nursed ds at the ped's office and didn't think a thing about the fact that the only person in the waiting room was a man maybe a bit older than me, I figured he was the father of a patient. But I got a little bit of a weird vibe when I realized he was watching us. I looked up and met his eyes to let him know I saw what he was doing, and he looked away. But as ds unlatched he turned back quickly and looked right at the breast area of my shirt!'' (nothing was showing, sorry dude). Ugh. That was the first time ever that I've had a less than positive experience with NIP. I've never had anyone stare so blatantly, and I was unprepared to deal with it. Now I wish I'd said something but I don't know just how I should have handled it. (I'm not very confrontational).

Of course this will not deter me from NIP at all, but I sure hope to be better prepared for that kind of thing if I ever run into it again. I feel like he invaded my 'space' in a way, like when someone stands too close or talks to you while looking at your boobs instead of making eye contact, you know?

Well on the other hand the nurse said to me "Wow, that's great that he's still nursing!"
And the ped blew off the 'your baby should be having 2 cups of cow's milk daily' BS on the 15 month checkup question list, since he's "still" nursing.

So a little bit of both sides today I guess.. I was just feeling a little creeped out, Thanks for "listening"!

[RachelGS]

Eww. Sorry you had to endure that creepiness! I'm glad you stuck to your guns and nursed your babe, though. And to your nurse and ped!

[lauraess]

Maybe you could look at the whole situation w/ the older gentleman like this: Maybe he was curious, maybe his late wife nursed and he was trying to remember those times of bfing, maybe you taught him something?!
Anyway, sometimes people get curious and stare at just anything-- I doubt it was anything sexual--- really.
Laura

[NatalieS]

Good for you! That is kinda creepy though. I have a hard time nursing in front of men I know; strangers- no problem!

[CathToria]

That does seem odd.... usually, ESPECIALLY if a guy sees me NIP, they turn their head so quickly once they realize what i am doing.....

[zaftigmama]

My DH thinks nursing is great, and he thinks people should nurse anywhere their kids are hungry. But I noticed that when my sister and friend were nursing, he couldn't look in their direction at all, and would sometimes leave the room. I asked why, and he said he was afraid people would think he was trying to see something, or was staring.

It's weird that someone would stare at you while you were nursing, but maybe he didn't realize it. Sometimes I look at someone, and my mind wanders, and I'm still looking at them, but not really seeing them. I'm sure they think I'm staring. Or maybe he was trying to figure out if you were really nursing - not that it's his business. Esp. at a pediatrician's office, it should be expected!

Take care,

[sun-shine01]

nak

uggghh!

probably not the response that you are looking for but you could ask him in a snotty tone "Are you hungry too?"

[jeca]

Maybe he was curious or unsure of what you were doing or maybe he's never actually seen someone nursing before, I know my dad never had before me.

[rareimer]

should have said, "you'll have to wait your turn."

yeah i woulda been creeped out too.

[Sustainer]

Doesn't surprise me at all in this repressed culture in which women's breasts are always kept hidden. Naturally there's curiosity when the forbidden fruit ventures out of hiding. That kind of thing wouldn't be an issue if there weren't a double standard for women's / men's chests being exposed.

[Greaseball]

I'd say, "Get a good look while you still can, because in another 4 years we'll be all done!"

Gives him something else to think about...

[NoraB]

If you felt creeped out, listen to that. Don't try to analyze it and talk yourself out of the feeling. Maybe he wasn't a creep. Chances are though, if he made you feel creeped out, he was a creep.

Excuse the mini-rant...I just got finished reading Protecting the Gift.

[Kundalini-Mama]

Originally posted by NoraB
If you felt creeped out, listen to that. Don't try to analyze it and talk yourself out of the feeling. Maybe he wasn't a creep. Chances are though, if he made you feel creeped out, he was a creep.

Excuse the mini-rant...I just got finished reading Protecting the Gift.

I thought the same thing and I just finished reading Protecting the Gift!