Believe DD About Pain? Or Look for Other Cause? - Page 2

[Marsupialmom]

I have a friend whose child suffer for way longer than they should have with rhematoid arthice because they didn't listen to their child's pain.

My brother (younger half sibling) walked around with a broken growth plate. This cause long term issues.

I remember being told to shake it off one to many times. It hurts not to be listen to. Sometimes you need to just hug them, then let them know you are listening.
Doctors do not always know why their is pain.

Another friend's son got stomach migraines. There seem to be no rhyme or reason. Know they know more medically about them --- but as an adult he is glad his mom believed him. Now his children are having them.

Young children have a hard time explaining how they feel. This doesn't make the issue unreal though.

[bec]

I rarely post in this forum, but I have been watching my friend's 4 year old struggle with juvenile rheumatoid arthritis since February. They thought it was broken bones at first, but have since gotten the correct arthritis diagnosis. The thing about it, is that it can flare up seemingly randomly. It's generally worse in the morning, but can ease up as the day progresses. It can change depending on the weather, humidity, temperature, activity, diet, etc. This child also has a very high tolerance for pain, and will rarely say anything about her joints hurting her. Usually, just a flinch is an indication of a large amount of pain. It breaks my heart seeing her in such pain, so chronically.

My first inclination is to believe my child when they say they are in pain. I think you are doing the right thing by taking her seriously, and getting it looked at.

[Heavenly]

I would advise to always listen to your children when they say they are in pain. I had chronic pain from the time I was very little - stomach pains, bladder pains, leg pains. My dad just kept telling me that since the doctor couldn't find anything right away that there was nothing wrong with me. Fast forward to age 17 when in one year I am diagnosed with FOUR severe chronic health conditions. It still hurts me immensely that I wasn't believed as a child.

[provocativa]

i think i'm probably known around these boards for saying this, but magnesium will help growing pains, and fibro, or any muscle or connective tissue pain. it doesn't cure it, but we are all deficient in this mineral. when i was breastfeeding dd1, i had terrible joint pain until i looked it up and started taking it all the time, instead of just to prevent pms.

my dd also says she has belly pain when consuming milk products (wheat is major pain). we recently tried a bit of dairy again for 2 days, and she reported pain.

people with any kind of arthritis, but especially autoimmune types, need to get off dairy and wheat. you can read the book Dangerous Grains, which has a whole chapter on the links. many say that arthritis on a large scale does not appear in the fossil record until the advent of agriculture (and grain cultivation).

i agree about the chiro-osteopath recs. when i wear slides or clogs, my knees feel the strain. i see lots of kids in ridiculous shoes, and i wonder what effect they have on their ligaments. i would believe your dd about pain, but try to get to the bottom of how much pain. does it hurt as much as when you fall and hit your whatever, or does it hurt like the time you did something else. i'm guessing someone with more experience in pain management has written up a questionnaire about how to get such info out of young kids.