A question for moms with large breasts - Page 3

[butterfly_mommy]

I also LOVE my lane Bryant bras and make trips to the US to buy them when they have crazy deals. I once got 6 bras for like 60 bucks! I wear a 42 E now, well actually that's what I wore before DS and not sure what I wear now.

I developed very early, I wore my first bra in grade 4 and was a 36 DDD by grade 8.

I think you are doing fantastic. Just wanted to add that I love my Enell sports bra it is like armour but I get no bounce when I run! My breasts and the pain and embarrassment of them bouncing is why I stopped being active in school I wish I had a good sports bra when I was growing up. Really really important!

[Sfcmama]

I agree that you are doing a great job. I didn't get professionally fit until I was an adult I think this majorly effected my self image. She probably only needs a few bras at a time as she is likely to change sizes quickly as she grows. As for sports bras, I like the Enell (sp?). Another tip, your DD may find sleeping in a tank with a shelf bra more comfortable than nothing at all. I actually starting sleeping in nursing tanks when pregnant and wished I'd been doing it sooner.
She's lucky to have you!

[snarky]

A few posters above mentioned talking to your daughter about unwanted male attention, and minimizing/dealing with that. Nobody mentioned talking to her about the converse - what happens if the attention that she is getting becomes wanted.

I was a shy, awkward kid with few friends - until I developed and boys were interested in me. Because I wanted some positive attention, I was pleased to have this attention and did, in fact, become sexually active earlier and with more partners than I might have otherwise.

I would put the conversation to her as you would have a conversation with any teenage girl (ie, it's not about her breasts), but the time to start having ongoing conversations about healthy relationships and sex is now (if you haven't already).

ps - Nordstroms has lingerie sales quarterly, I got 4 36DDD bras for $200 at the end of July

[Mulvah]

You got some great advice already. I think it's fantastic you are taking the whole situation seriously. I think it will make all the difference for your daughter.

Originally Posted by gbailey

OP, I admire how you are handling the situation with your DD....

Me too!

[Linda on the move]

Thank you!

I feel like I'm walking a thin line on the "we are happy to pay for this" BUT "these are really expensive so please please take care of them" issue. It's tricky.

I do feel lucky and blessed to be able to spend so much money on certain things and I never want to her to feel guilty about it, at the same time, she's 13 and left her $98 swim suit on the bath room floor twice last week. It's age appropriate, and I try not to nag her more/differently than I do her sister for leaving her $14 suit on the floor. I'd love to buy one on clearance this fall for her, but I really don't know what size she'll be next spring so it seems a bit pointless.

I'm excited to have so many more stores and options to check out with her.

I do talk about relationships, sex, etc. When we watch movies together, we talk about the characters and what she thinks of their choices, whether the movie seems realistic etc. I read some of the same books she reads and those are often spring points for conversations too.

I also bought a couple of very open books on puberty related issues and have them where the kids can look things up when they want to. She has access to solid information and knows that the choices she makes are her own, and that we will always love and support her.

One of the things that I've tried to teach my girls is that sex can change the way you feel about a person, making the emotions more intense, and as painful as it is when a relationship ends, it can be even worse when they relationship was sexual.

I've let them know that I have their insurance cards and if they ever want to go on the pill or whatever, they can just say so. I've shown them where condems are in stores, how inexpensive they are. None the less, I've encourage them to wait until they are adults and to be very selective. It's a thin line. Sex is a natural part of life, and yet I don't think anyone is best off being ruled by their whims. I think sex is best as part of a solid relationship where you care about the whole person, and you know that they care about you as a whole person.

Still, we don't get to make those choices for our teens. What ever choices she makes, I want to stay as safe as possible.