I have my first lawyer consult this week. As of right now I have chosen a lady who doesn't give free consults (though she did answer a bunch of questions on the phone) however she has lower rates than some of the others I called- retainers are different if it's uncontested. Another lawyer recommended her. I want to make the most of my time with her- 75 bucks an hour. I did email the domestic violence folk to ask if they had a lawyer list, but they haven't gotten back to me yet. Stbx is an alcoholic and verbally abusive and I believe has NPD. With the personality disorder it is possible he could try to wage a custody fight, even though he hates being around the kids most of the time. I started my list of questions:
Is this a 50/50 state, or do we still grant most custody cases to the mom?
What evidence can I present of his alcoholism, if I can't get receipts and there are no duis?
What evidence can I present of the verbal abuse? Is just my word good enough? I didn't keep a detailed log, but I recently got a cell phone that records well (though he's trying hard to keep his control these days).
On what criteria is limited visitation or supervised visitation granted? How long does that limited status go on, and how or when can he petition to change it? You mentioned that we could ask for random alcohol and drug tests with evidence of the alcoholism, but I think he would be hard to snag with a test for these reasons (blah blah).
How do I file a writ of domicile, or whatever the paper is called to kick him out of the house for said alcoholism?
We don't have much equity in the house- questions about dividing property.
How can my radical beliefs impede us in court- I breastfeed and cosleep until over age 4, and we are a no-vax, see the doctor only for emergencies kind of family.
That's all I can come up with. What else ya got?
Is this a 50/50 state, or do we still grant most custody cases to the mom?
What evidence can I present of his alcoholism, if I can't get receipts and there are no duis?
What evidence can I present of the verbal abuse? Is just my word good enough? I didn't keep a detailed log, but I recently got a cell phone that records well (though he's trying hard to keep his control these days).
On what criteria is limited visitation or supervised visitation granted? How long does that limited status go on, and how or when can he petition to change it? You mentioned that we could ask for random alcohol and drug tests with evidence of the alcoholism, but I think he would be hard to snag with a test for these reasons (blah blah).
How do I file a writ of domicile, or whatever the paper is called to kick him out of the house for said alcoholism?
We don't have much equity in the house- questions about dividing property.
How can my radical beliefs impede us in court- I breastfeed and cosleep until over age 4, and we are a no-vax, see the doctor only for emergencies kind of family.
That's all I can come up with. What else ya got?
