Depressed. Anxious. - Page 2

[louis]

Nothing to add, just wanted to wish you luck tomorrow and hope that your US tomorrow gives you the reassurance you need! Baby Ozzy will let you know when he's ready to be born, I'm sure of it.

[Pippi L.]

Remember -- just because you have the ultrasound doesn't mean you have to induce. You already know that measurements can be off by a lot so try not to let those numbers bother you.

Also remember that a posterior baby can turn after labor starts. Just because he's posterior now doesn't mean he'll stay posterior.

Good luck! It's so hard to be pregnant at this point. Right now I feel like it will never, ever end and I'll be pregnant forever. I'm also a day further than I went with my daughter and it makes the waiting just that much harder.

[gradstudentmommy]

My daughter was posterior and I went into labor on my own at 41 weeks 1 day after walking around for over a month 2 cm dilated and something like 75% effaced.

I had a long talk with my midwife today about extra testing because I'm 39 years old and feel huge. She said there's no indication my baby is big (uterus is only measuring a week ahead). And there would be no reason to suspect low amnio fluid unless my uterus was measuring small. She said it has to be 3 cm ahead or behind your current week to be considered "larger" or "smaller" than normal. She won't offer an ultrasound or NST until after 41 1/2 weeks. We talked about how it's standard practice with lots of OBs to offer lots of additional tests but there's no empirically supported to data to suggest they help at all or improve outcomes and offer lead to unnecessary worry about "big babies."

Personally I've love another ultrasound because I haven't seen my little bean since 20 weeks and it would reassure me to have another look. But I would not be talked into an induction for a "big baby." Ultrasound measurements are notoriously way out and I trust that my body won't make a baby I can't birth.

I'm not even having any internal exams this time because it was SOOOO discouraging to know I was dilated and effaced and having TONS of Braxton Hicks and still my baby came 8 days after her due date. This time I don't expect to go into labor until after my due date so it makes the waiting a bit easier, even though I'm miserable.

I've had two friends that had babies at 36 weeks and both had breathing problems. I hear the babies do a lot of growing/refining during these last few weeks so I'm happy to have my baby cook a little longer even though I'm miserable. (Did I mention I'm miserable?)

Good luck. Try not to stress. Just enjoy having another look at your beautiful boy!

[AustinMom]

The only reason I would say to refuse the u/s is if you feel your Dr. will become uneasy if there is a 'big baby' threat. I know you won't, and I know, YOU know that they are off, but a Dr. may not be as comforted in that thought, as most haven't read all the studies and research on it. So that's the only thing that sticks out as in, don't do the u/s.

As far as induction goes.....even at term and after 40 weeks, ACOG says NOT to induce just because a macrosomic baby is expected. So if they pull the big baby card, and say to induce, refuse it based on recommendations of the org. that sets the standard for their practice. I agree with you, 30 min of pushing for a first time mom, with a posterior baby is AMAZING, so you really won't have any trouble even if your baby is big, as baby size really doesn't have much to do with 'can she push the baby out' Fat is squishy, even in a 10lb baby.

I know it's hard to be happy when you are so uncomfortable. I really do feel for you. Maybe you could treat yourself to every week milestone, go get a massage, pedicure, spa day, whatever. When we hit 40 weeks (next Tuesday) I'm doing a pedi, (maybe slip in a mani without telling hubby ). At 41 weeks, I'm going prenatal massage! This way, you have something to look forward to every week.

Oh, and TOTALLY second the find something to do everyday so your not just sitting around pregnant. That's my problem. It's regularly 105 degrees here these coming weeks, so I'm kinda limited on activities .

Oh, and drink lots of water to make sure you and baby are well hydrated in advance during the u/s to avoid the 'low fluid' stuff.

Much MUCH love to you!

[tribord]

I had an u/s recommended to me last week because I felt decreased fetal movement and my amniotic fluid felt low to the midwife. I did end up going. Everything looked good, and I'm glad I went (despite the nearly $900 bill for a half-hour u/s... luckily we just pay 20% but still....). But I did mentally prepare myself for standing up for myself just in case something was a little bit off and I started getting induction pressure.

I went into labor with DD at 39w2d and I will be that far along tomorrow. I really thought the baby would be here by now and I am having a surprisingly hard time accepting that this pregnancy may be longer than the last, so I feel for you going past when you delivered your DD.

And finally, to paraphrase Hypnobabies, this birth will be unique to your baby (or something like that ). Just because things happened a certain way last time doesn't mean they will again this time. When I'm getting really anxious, I try to imagine everything going right... the baby rotating just before or during labor even though he is posterior now, etc., etc. Good luck and keep us updated after your appointment tomorrow!

[Kelly1101]

Originally Posted by AustinMom

As far as induction goes.....even at term and after 40 weeks, ACOG says NOT to induce just because a macrosomic baby is expected. So if they pull the big baby card, and say to induce, refuse it based on recommendations of the org. that sets the standard for their practice.

Right... thanks for reminding me of this... it's like "I'm not being the crazy NCB hippie this time, your own people say this!" rotfl.

Originally Posted by tribord

And finally, to paraphrase Hypnobabies, this birth will be unique to your baby (or something like that ). Just because things happened a certain way last time doesn't mean they will again this time.

I really need to hear this, too... While I'm happy with my last birth, there are definitely things I'm hoping to be different this time around, and when I think about it, it makes me more anxious.

Trying to be in positive mode, the appt is at 11:30, I'll definitely let ya'll know how it goes!

[Kelly1101]

No time to really update right now, but things went well, no worries