Advice for a still frequently waking 14mo who doesn't like to cosleep anymore.

[Beauchamp]

So, she wants her own space because she gets soooo mad when she needs to move at night and bumps into me or DH. She will just not settle anymore. So, what are my options?

DH will not buy another mattress to go on the floor in our room. He also wants to leave her crib where it is (down the hall in her room, where she naps fairly well during the day.)

Right now I go to her when she wakes and nurse in the recliner and then put her back in the crib. Then at the next wake up, DH brings her to me to cosleep and he goes out on the couch. He sleeps horribly out there, because he says he hears everything. DD will "cosleep" with me alone, as long as she gets all the space she needs and I hug the edge of the (king size) bed.

But it's just not working for us. Options? Night wean in hopes she sleeps longer stretches?

[Beauchamp]

Okay, well, two days and zero responses. I guess I am one of those invisible poster/threadkiller people.

Anyway, my mother is coming to visit in two days and I know she is going to give me an earful over DD's sleep. I don't think DD would nightwean very easily right now, since I have nursed her completely to sleep for every night and nap about 90% of the time since she was born. (Otherwise she has fallen asleep in the Ergo or being held/swayed.)

The only thing I can come up with is to set up her pack n play (ugh) next to our bed, since DH won't move the crib. At least I won't have to cross the house.

I just feel so tired, sore, and irritated. I keep telling myself to go another couple of months and not think about night weaning until she's at least 18 mo, but when I go to her at night and I can feel the frustration in my body as I am nursing her...it's not good.

So, if anyone has any support, I would really appreciate it, in light of my mom coming this weekend. I know she is going to do some serious eye rolling, and make a lot of "helpful " suggestions.

[Big D]

no suggestions, only hugs.

[sarahsmiles]

Hugs here, too.

DS is nearly 14 months and we are struggling with this, too. He really only wakes once or twice and nurses back to sleep fine, but he wakes when we come to bed and I wonder if he would do better with his own space. One night I spend with DD in her bed because she was sick and DS slept through to 6 without nursing. He also likes to take up a LOT of space in our bed.

Makes me wonder ...

[FreshJen]

more hugs....dd 16 mo wakes at least 4 and often 8 times a night...we are now cosleeping on a full size mattress in her room. I spend the first stretch in my room with dh, then move to her room for the rest of the night after the wake up. We're on round 2 of night weaning. First round, it worked, fewer wakeups, but this round, not so much. Guess we all gotta find our own way....?

[Shanny2032]

2 thoughts that may or may not help. One - have you thought about just making her a "bed" on the floor of your room? My dd is almost 21 months and since I take her to work with me as a Nanny I folded a queen size comforter a few times for her to nap on. No extra mattresses or walking the house needed . Second thought is that I, in the last few days have started night weaning. Well not really started, I just did it. I did nurse her last night because she had a temp of 105.2 but that is a whole other post. I don't know if it is because she is just ready or what but if someone would have told me 6 months ago that is was at all possible for it to be this easy I would have at least given it a try. I am amazed how once I stuck to my guns and she new I wasn't going to give in she fussed SO much less and then the miracle of all miracles she just woke less! Good luck. I know it is hard but try and take out of the equation what your mother thinks and what your hubby needs. Figure out what is best for baby first then factor in your husband and yours needs to make it work for everyone!