We are in Canada so I don't know if that makes the rules change. I have a 12 year old step DD , her Mom and DH have been split since she was a baby. They have joint custody with primary residence with her Mom. We usually have her 5 weeks in the summer, 1 at Christmas, 1 at Spring Break and maybe a long weekend.. Step DD had told me this winter her Mom has said once she is 12 its up to her if she comes anymore well now that she is 12 she doesn't want to come and her Mom says she will not force her anymore. Her Mom hurtfully told DH that she has never wanted to come and she has always had to force her since she was baby.. We are trying to figure out if there any rules after age 12, we know that the judge takes the child's opinion into consideration after 12 but our understanding was that would only be if we tried to change custody which we aren't, DH just wants fair visitation rights. Her Mom is not good to deal with at all and is VERY manipulative, not telling the truth and coming up with excuses why she can't come visit. We live on a farm and are building a cob home, we homeschool our other 4 kids but when she is here she loves it and has a blast! We have a very different lifestyle from her Mom and their family but we can see no reason why she wouldnt want to come other than her Mom influencing/manipulating her too.
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8/24/10 at 5:20pm