How much time for 5yr to get ready in the morning? - Page 2

[Mackenzie]

Granted all my boys (6 and 10...dd, 12 is responsible for herself and idk what she does, really) have to do is use the bathroom, brush teeth, *maybe* get a drink of water, and assemble themselves (clothes, shoes, backpacks) but we have it done in 15 mins easily


DS1 is in bed generally around 9-9:30 but sometimes takes him a while to fall asleep. DS2 is in bed at 9 at the latest, sometimes earlier (of his own accord) and generally has NO issue falling asleep promptly... They are roused out of bed abt 6:30 and out of the house to the bus stop at 6:48

[AllisonR]

Originally Posted by beebalmmama

Right now I just feel like dh is walking behind him like a task master, reminding him to keep moving and what comes next.

This would drive me, not to mention DS or DD, up the wall. Guaranteed, if we are going at a normal pace and it takes DS or DD 10 minutes to do something, if I try and rush it, it stresses them and then it takes 15-20 minutes. Guaranteed. Just to bite me I think!

Our routine: in bed 7:15 if either DS or DD is grumpy, 7:30 otherwise. Bedtime stories, asleep by 7:45-8:00 latest. DH wakes them at 6:15. Very gently I might add - he rubs their back, tells them it is morning, opens the blinds... Then he gets DS dressed (DS is 5 and can dress himself, but early in the morning and after bath he prefers us to mostly dress him). Then either DH or I dress DD (DD is 3, sometimes she also wants us to get her dressed, other times she wants to pick out a new outfit and dress herself). Downstairs 6:35-6:40. Breakfast until the church bell rings at 7:00am. Up and brush teeth, downstairs with coats on and lunchboxes in backpacks 7:05-7:10, in the car a minute or two later. So I see it is 55min total. This runs pretty smoothly for us. Then again, we have been doing this same routine for YEARS, so DS and DD are used to it and I think that is part of the reason it runs so well. We make adjustments to bedtime, but not morning routine, when their school changes. For example when DS started kidergarten, and now this august he started school, so sometimes bedtime moves up a bit, but morning routine is still the same.

[beebalmmama]

Originally Posted by AllisonR

This would drive me, not to mention DS or DD, up the wall. Guaranteed, if we are going at a normal pace and it takes DS or DD 10 minutes to do something, if I try and rush it, it stresses them and then it takes 15-20 minutes. Guaranteed. Just to bite me I think!

This is kind of what I'm seeing. Ds can dress, eat and brush teeth in about 20-30 minutes. But it seems as if each task (mainly brushing teeth and shoes) is taking so much longer because he's arguing with his dad about "just a minute I want to tell you something first". This goes on all morning during each task so they are barely out the door at 8:00 after waking up at 7:00.

Like I mentioned before ds can't talk and finish up a task at the same time.

[beebalmmama]

Originally Posted by Millie Ivy

Is your kiddo seeming bothered or stressed by your dh "keeping him on task"? Everyone is different and works differently, so if it were my situation I would let them work it out if it's not causing stress. My dd likes me to be kept on task like that. Even if she doesn't feel like it when she's just woken up she still wants me to do it, and will ask later for me to make sure I remind her.
At least give it a week or two and then if you feel like it's not the best way to handle your kid's morning talk to your hubs at night when kids in bed and see if you can figure out an alternative plan.

Well it does keep him going. But he gets pretty resistant when we are hurrying or don't appear to be listening to him. We are already having a lot of behavior problems here at home, so this is always a VERY CAREFUL balance.

Dh has been letting him watch PBS once they get to school. Ds hangs out in dh's classroom for about 40 minutes before school starts. His favorite show is on at 8:00 and so that has been basically dh's bribe to get him going out the door on time.

[claras_mom]

Originally Posted by beebalmmama

This is kind of what I'm seeing. Ds can dress, eat and brush teeth in about 20-30 minutes. But it seems as if each task (mainly brushing teeth and shoes) is taking so much longer because he's arguing with his dad about "just a minute I want to tell you something first". This goes on all morning during each task so they are barely out the door at 8:00 after waking up at 7:00.

Like I mentioned before ds can't talk and finish up a task at the same time.

I've been wondering (here at the end of the first week of kindy) if I'm actually allowing too much time for dd. My goal is to be able to walk to school with her, which would mean leaving a little before 8 if we're to get there and still have playground time before the bell. I really want to have that quiet time with her in the morning, to get the day off to a good start (we were able to do it last year, for preschool, at least part of the time. But it's a longer walk this year).

Originally Posted by beebalmmama

Well it does keep him going. But he gets pretty resistant when we are hurrying or don't appear to be listening to him. We are already having a lot of behavior problems here at home, so this is always a VERY CAREFUL balance.

Dh has been letting him watch PBS once they get to school. Ds hangs out in dh's classroom for about 40 minutes before school starts. His favorite show is on at 8:00 and so that has been basically dh's bribe to get him going out the door on time.

Dd would be in heaven if she could watch PBS kids in the morning!

[beebalmmama]

Originally Posted by claras_mom

I've been wondering (here at the end of the first week of kindy) if I'm actually allowing too much time for dd. My goal is to be able to walk to school with her, which would mean leaving a little before 8 if we're to get there and still have playground time before the bell. I really want to have that quiet time with her in the morning, to get the day off to a good start (we were able to do it last year, for preschool, at least part of the time. But it's a longer walk this year).




Dd would be in heaven if she could watch PBS kids in the morning!

Yeah, he's going to be spending quite a bit of time in dh's classroom this year, well and for years to come I guess. So we're trying to allow him some down time activities and he absolutley LOVES Dinosaur Train.

Today actually went smoothly in the beginning. Dressed and eating. Dh had laid back a bit on the nagging. But then ds had to poop, these are the things that this schedule isn't allowing for. If he's gotta go, he's gotta go. Still out the door by 8:05, so not bad considering.

[mommy2maya]

I think after a few weeks of the routine it will get easier and less stressful.