Offer suggestions/advice to a friend - did I cross the line?

[busymama77]

Earlier today, a friend of mine and I were msging back and forth on FB about exercising, diets, etc., I shared my great news of losing weight and fitting in to a smaller size. I've been receiving praise and congrats from tons of other people - just not her. Told her how much I'm enjoying running again and what my routine as been like lately with diet and exercise. She mentioned how she did yoga at lunchtime and power pump last night. How much she enjoys the classes, etc., All good things!

I told her that attribute a lot of my weight loss success to my diet. She had mentioned that she needed to revisit her diet and cut back on the booze. When I had mentioned that I had cut back to maybe twice a week and if she would do so it would help tremendously with her diet. And then I offered suggestions of lower calorie beer, etc., She shot back that she knows what to do to lose weight but doesn't care about doing them.

Eating like crap, boozing almost daily and working out and not losing one single pound seems a bit counter productive to me. But do you think I went over the line by suggesting that she cut back on the booze? I'm not insinuating anything, but she always complains about the fact that she can't lose weight but yet she'll toss back a six pack in one evening!!

Just trying to help. Guess I'll keep my mouth shut from now on.

[crunchy_mama]

I wouldn't stress about it. I just wouldn't mention it again on such things it seems best to only give your opinion if it is asked. I am guessing she does know that it is counterproductive but as she said she doesn't care to change it.

[Linda on the move]

On one hand I don't think you were out of line. When I was struggling with my weight and couldn't figure out how to fix it, I would have loved to have a friend point out what might help.

On the other hand, she doesn't want to hear to so I wouldn't say it again!

I think it sounds like there is an emotional side to her weight issues and until she tackles it, more information isn't helpful.

My mother always complains about her weight to me, but she doesn't want to do any of the things I do (like keep a food journal and look up nutrional infornation for resturants I frequent). I do the activite listening thing and say things like "You sound really frustrated."