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post #21 of 22
I haven't read through all the posts, so this thought may have been mentioned....but the OP said in her first post that she was concerned that if she has to transfer her parents will respond with a "we told you so" kind of attitude....I'm wondering if you could introduce this possibility yourself...openly discussing that one of the things that ensures home births are safe is that anything that occurs that changes the appropriateness of birthing at home means transfering to the hospital and just because someone PLANS a homebirth doesn't mean everyone sits on their hands in a dangerous situation for mom or baby...my parents often say "well its a good thing you transfered to the hospital to get real medical support..." and I say "yeah, good thing I had such amazing midwives who knew when to make that call...."

Parents can be challenging, but I would disagree that homebirth challenges his whole career. There is huge need for well-skilled OBs....there are lots of situations where his skill and experience would be the only thing I would want! But unless those situations occur, of course low risk home birth is fine.

Good luck....

s.
post #22 of 22
I think you've gotten lots of good advice from everyone. One suggestion I would make, if you haven't already had the conversation, is to have it between just YOU and YOUR DAD. Invite him to lunch, get him alone when the families are together, whatever works for you...it seems like your mom would just chime in so much and make it harder for you to have a rational conversation with him. Letting your dad know you are making an EDUCATED decision will hopefully always help.

I hope you are able to come to a point where you are all comfortable.
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