Who is this child? - Page 3

[zoebird]

it looks to me like it worked out well.

yesterday, i wrote (but was unable to post) that i felt the jury was still out on this one--that there is likely a lot of stress on both sides, and communication issues (between children and adults, between the adults, etc), and that it would probably work itself out by the end of the week.

looks like it has, and of course, i would hope that the teacher would understand the developmental age of the children in her room, and that they wouldn't necessarily understand spying, death, and so on.

[velochic]

Sounds like you figured out where your dd was getting the ideas for these comments, after all. Hope things keep getting better for her.

[amma_mama]

OP, glad to hear that things are getting on a more positive track. Those first days are stressful for everyone andit is good that both parties recognize that and move forward.

Originally Posted by Sustainer

I can't speak for the OP or anyone else, but personally there is no way I would wait a week before making sure my child knew where the drinking water was. Especially after a serious illness.

I did not mean to suggest waiting a week on the water issue - that was, indeed, an immediate health issue to bring up in a short and gentle email. The OP mentioned in her first post that she wrote to the teacher to ask about "some of the complaints" from her DD, so I understood that it went beyond the immediate water issue, which is what I was commenting on (though I recognize that I was not clear). In any case, it sounds like everything has been smoothed over to the benefit of the child.

[One_Girl]

Originally Posted by velochic

Sounds like you figured out where your dd was getting the ideas for these comments, after all. Hope things keep getting better for her.

Yes I did thankfully! When I first got the e-mail I was stunned and I took it a little more like an adult would take it. It took me a discussion with dd and some input from one of my co-workers (who definitely isn't what I would call a GD follower) and a few hours to process things so I could look at the whole picture from dd's pov and bring that gently to her teachers attention.

amma_mama: One of her complaints was that a girl had purposely pulled her off of her scooter thing (not a real scooter but a square with wheels). It caused her hand to get scraped up and quite a bit of her toenail came off. That was serious enough that I wanted to know if it was something that happened on purpose. Her teacher said she would talk to the PE teacher to see. I have been laid back about bullying in the past thinking it was age appropriate and would end quickly and it turned out poorly. Now I am very proactive about it and make sure I follow up on each intentional or possibly intentional incident. It works better then bringing a laundry list one time. My dd had many complaints that day though so I only brought up the ones that I though were serious (water, outside time, and how she got injured).

[amma_mama]

Originally Posted by One_Girl

Yes I did thankfully! When I first got the e-mail I was stunned and I took it a little more like an adult would take it. It took me a discussion with dd and some input from one of my co-workers (who definitely isn't what I would call a GD follower) and a few hours to process things so I could look at the whole picture from dd's pov and bring that gently to her teachers attention.

amma_mama: One of her complaints was that a girl had purposely pulled her off of her scooter thing (not a real scooter but a square with wheels). It caused her hand to get scraped up and quite a bit of her toenail came off. That was serious enough that I wanted to know if it was something that happened on purpose. Her teacher said she would talk to the PE teacher to see. I have been laid back about bullying in the past thinking it was age appropriate and would end quickly and it turned out poorly. Now I am very proactive about it and make sure I follow up on each intentional or possibly intentional incident. It works better then bringing a laundry list one time. My dd had many complaints that day though so I only brought up the ones that I though were serious (water, outside time, and how she got injured).

One_Girl: I did not realize from your previous post that the injury took place at school, nor that it was a result of bullying. Yikes, that definitely is more than worthy of an email or phone call to the teacher, first day or not! I am so sorry that your DD had such a hard time on her first day and I hope that you are able to work together with the teacher to turn things around.