A TCAC suggestion - Page 2

[AFWife]

Originally Posted by lawmama1984

I kind of agree with this, although I can see how it might come across as offensive to you AFWife (even though I'm sure it wasn't intended that way). I know I first stumbled upon TCAC one night while I was literally sobbing, holding my newborn, thinking I *had* to circ otherwise we would have all these problems but having a gut instinct that it was so wrong.

Having come across it in this deeply emotional state for the first time, it's pretty hard for me to understand how anyone could really do the research, especially in a calm and unemotional state, and read through the stickies at all the information (with a truly open, searching heart) and then say "oh this forum made me want to circ b/c I saw people asking about 'problems' with the intact penis." Then again, maybe I got lucky...I had doulas supporting me and telling me I didn't have to, and maybe there just weren't as many "problem" posts when I first began lurking.

Maybe most people don't start with the stickies? But I did, and I know I came across that "I regret circ'ing" thread right off and I was done. Where do circ boy issues go? I think someone once said they go in H&H?

I don't always do stickies. Especially when I was new to the forum and just browsing around. And yeah, when you're curious and do a quick scan and find that most of the threads on the first page are problems you assume it's all like that.

And I'm not comfortable posting about my circ'd sons problems, TBH.

[lawmama1984]

Originally Posted by AFWife

I don't always do stickies. Especially when I was new to the forum and just browsing around. And yeah, when you're curious and do a quick scan and find that most of the threads on the first page are problems you assume it's all like that.

And I'm not comfortable posting about my circ'd sons problems, TBH.

Oh, I'm sorry, I didn't mean you specifically...I was just generally curious where moms would ask questions about their circ issues. I know we get a few in TCAC, but I wondered if there is also somewhere else they are posted.

I disagree with the last sentence of your first paragraph. But, some people are the type for whom that would be the case, so I see your point. I think a sub-forum might be a good idea. But then what's to say people won't go there, read "issues" (which we have already discussed, most issues aren't issues at all) and then say the sub-forum made them want to circ? I guess I just get a little uncomfortable reading that TCAC "made me want to circ" as was stated in the OP. The stickies are there for the precise reason that many people have no experience or knowledge of the intact penis and why it's important not to circ. They remain at the top of the forum so they are easily accessible and resources are clearly laid out. For me, it seems the most logical place to start your research. I guess I just don't imagine most people research whether or not to do it by clicking on random problem posts.

None of this is intended to be snarky or rude, btw. JMHO.

[JessicaS]

Originally Posted by lawmama1984

I think someone once said they go in H&H?

yes, they can go in H&H.

[HappyMommy2]

There is one thread that that specifically asks for non-problems with non-circ, for the exact reasons you are questioning.

I had your same issue and started a thread called something like "is non-circ really that difficult to deal with??".

Those two threads might help you, OP.

[AFWife]

Originally Posted by HappyMommy2

There is one thread that that specifically asks for non-problems with non-circ, for the exact reasons you are questioning.
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That thread wasn't around when I was pregnant with DS. I'm glad it's there now, but it's only been revived since I was a mere lurker.

[texmati]

Is there any reason that questions regarding circed and intact penis's can't go in health and healing? I agree with AFwife, that I feel having all these 'issues' in CAC is off topic, and distracting from the forum's purpose of discussing the case against RIC.

I also feel that having a 'special' forum just for intact issues just propogates the myth (and it's a myth) that there is something abnormal about intact penis's. Most of the worlds males are intact; I don't see why issues can't be funneled into health and healing just like issues regarding hand's, toes and feet.

[texmati]

just bumping... I saw a post about this in TCAC.

I know we are not adding new forums, but what about my suggestion to change the rules to have these posts put in Health and Healing?