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Is this an age-appropriate junior bridesmaid dress?

post #1 of 69
Thread Starter 
My girls have been asked to be in BIL's wedding this winter.

Yesterday, soon to be SIL sent me the details of the dresses she would like the girls to wear and asked me to give her the measurements.

My youngest is 3 and she will be a flower girl.

My oldest just turned 8 and she will be a junior bridesmaid.

Here's the jr. bridesmaid dress

The bridesmaid version is strapless (here for comparison) and of course I'm glad the jr. version has straps, but I'm concerned the neckline is still not very modest for an 8 year old.

Opinions welcome please!

Thanks!
post #2 of 69
An 8 year old doesn't have anything that'd show.

If you feel the dress looks weird how it's positioned on the body, you'll be able to shorten straps and let out the hem--easy peasy.

Eta: I'd let an 8 year old wear the jr dress, but would NOT want a 17 year old to wear the older version in a wedding (or an 18 year old, for that matter)
post #3 of 69
Well, modest is definitely a subjective term, but FWIW, I would not want my 9-year-old wearing that dress.
post #4 of 69
Thread Starter 
No there's nothing on an 8-y.o. to show but isn't that kind of bodice detailed the way it is to draw attention to the bust?

I guess I'm not comfortable with her wearing the dress either, I'm a bit more conservative in dress anyway. But it's hard for me to know if it's just my own conservatism or is this really considered okay for an 8 y.o.?
post #5 of 69
I don't really see anything wrong with it. It mostly looks like something my kids would wear during the summer... Except more fancy. Kwim? The style of dress I mean.. Is similar. I don't see a problem though. Like everyone said it's a subjective thing.
post #6 of 69
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Originally Posted by annettemarie View Post
Well, modest is definitely a subjective term, but FWIW, I would not want my 9-year-old wearing that dress.
I agree. DD has been a flowergirl in two weddings (ages 2 and 3), this is the type of dress she wore and I was quite happy with it.
post #7 of 69
The top doesn't look lower than a tank top. Looks simple and elegant. Definitely more "grown up", but for a wedding it feels just right.
post #8 of 69
The style of that dress makes me uncomfortable for a girl that age. can the bride choose a different style but with the same fabric?
post #9 of 69
If you're uncomfortable, could you ask to find a junior bridesmaid dress that matches the flower girl dress?
post #10 of 69
You might consider buying a shrug that matches/complements the dress. White, black or burgandy would look nice. That would provide more coverage and you could wear it again in the future.

Rhianna
post #11 of 69
I would have no problem with it for a wedding.
post #12 of 69
That company makes matching bolero style jackets. I personally wouldn't have my kid wearing that particular dress, and it certainly wouldn't fly in my place of worship.

Here's the link to their jackets. See if they have one in your needed color/size and if that would fly with the bride.

http://www.jasminebridal.com/J_8_1_1.aspx?sqno=01

Liz
post #13 of 69
Thats not something I'd be happy with my 8yr dd wearing either.

But, my opinion doesnt really matter, if *you* are uncomfortable, then you dont have to go along and let her wear it, right? I'd politely say, no thank you, lets find something else, and smile sweetly.
post #14 of 69
I think it's cute. I'd be fine with an 8 yr old wearing it. I'd be fine with my 6yr old wearing it.

-Angela
post #15 of 69
I like it, and don't see how it could possibly be innapropriate for an 8 yo girl. But if you aren't comfortable with it, let the bride know or buy a shawl for your DD to wear.
post #16 of 69
I think it's appropriate. Looks just like a fancy summer dress really. As a PP mentioned you could easily take up the straps and let down the hem if it looks like it's sitting too low.

I don't think that style of bodice is trying to attract attention to the bust, it's just pretty.

If you are really uncomfortable with it, I would do as a PP mentioned and try and find a shrug or bolero for her to wear with it.

ETA: I just looked at the bridesmaid dress and I can see why you'd be concerned, but honestly I'd be VERY surprised if a dress that is made for little girls would sit as low as the one for a woman. I imagine that dress would come somewhere below the collarbone for the girl.
post #17 of 69
Hang on, it's for winter? Get a shawl or jacket or something no matter what the bride says.
post #18 of 69
I showed the dress to my 12 year old. She goes it is pretty. I asked her if she would wear it. She said nope! She doesn't have the body for that style of dress yet....give her a few years.

I think brought my 10 year old. She said the dress is to mature for her body. She has no signs of puberty.

I think it is a gorgeous dress but not the typical 8 year old body shape friendly.

I would compromise though. I would ask if there is any way to make the straps a little wider, to help prevent slipage or allow for a shawl type covering.
post #19 of 69
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Originally Posted by Learning_Mum View Post
ETA: I just looked at the bridesmaid dress and I can see why you'd be concerned, but honestly I'd be VERY surprised if a dress that is made for little girls would sit as low as the one for a woman. I imagine that dress would come somewhere below the collarbone for the girl.
This is what I'm thinking too - that the top of the dress will be right under her arms. If it isn't, a quick shortening of the straps will take care of the issue.

I think the shape looks like any other summer strappy dress.

I think a little jacket/shrug type thing is a good idea - especially if the a/c is set really cold as many receptions are.

ETA: missed the "winter" part - definitely get a shrug/wrap/jacket/something because she'll be freezing! It also looks like the dress is available in different lengths. You could always order a longer one and then you know you'll have room for alterations to shorten the straps if needed and to make it longer/more modest if needed.
post #20 of 69
I let my girls (6 & 7) wear strappy summer dresses and they cover them appropriately. I think they are okay.

I didn't like how it looked on the model, but I think it will look better on a little girl. I think it will be higher cut than you think.
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