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post #21 of 69
Looking at the pictures, I think the little girl version looks similar to the grown up version, but is cut differently. I don't think it really gives the illusion of boobs. I let my dd1 (9) pick out some strappy summer dresses recently at a consignment sale that, while she could wear them, were clearly built for an older girl with a little something to put in the top part. She hasn't worn them anywhere but around the house right now. She also got another dress at the consignment sale that was originally from Limited Too and actually is her size. It's cut appropriately in the bodice and looks really cute. I'm a jeans a t-shirt kinda gal myself and always steering clear of the hoochie stuff at the stores, but I would have no problem with my dd1 wearing the kids version of that dress—the grown up version would be another story.

I don't really like that steel grey color, though, and think that's not very "little girl", but that's up to the bride and if the dress were in green I think it would be fine for a little girl and my girl would love it, in fact.
post #22 of 69
neither of those would be appropriate at any of the parish's I've attended.
post #23 of 69
Thread Starter 
Wow,thanks for all the replies.

Seems to be evenly split on opinions here.

Both my mom and MIL think the dress is okay but they definitely side with everyone here who said to get her a shawl or a jacket. I think I'm going to go with that because it will be winter.

In a church, she would have had to wear the jacket/shawl anyway but that's a moot point here b/c they're having the ceremony at the reception hall.

I asked dd's opinion and she's only unhappy with the color of the dress. Didn't seem to care about the cut or anything. But then that's the only part of her clothes she cares about at the moment -- the color.

Thanks everyone. I do appreciate all the insights.
post #24 of 69
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Originally Posted by Arduinna View Post
neither of those would be appropriate at any of the parish's I've attended.
However, we have had no indication that this is to be a church wedding.

I think it is a lovely dress and not at all inappropriate for a summer wedding, but could be a bit chilly for a winter wedding, depending on the climate.
post #25 of 69
I think it is a lovely dress, and it doesn't seem inappropriate for a young girl to me as long as the straps are short enough (and that's easy enough to fix if they aren't). Totally agree with the shrug or shawl idea, given than it is winter - and that will certainly make it look more modest. I can see how a little girl would be disappointed by the color, though.
post #26 of 69
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Originally Posted by choli View Post
However, we have had no indication that this is to be a church wedding.

I think it is a lovely dress and not at all inappropriate for a summer wedding, but could be a bit chilly for a winter wedding, depending on the climate.
Even out of church I would not find those dresses appropriate wedding clothes.
post #27 of 69
Thread Starter 
Posting again instead of editing my post:

Junior bridesmaids are considered ages 8-14. But I think there's a big difference in what I'd let my 14 year old wear vs. my 8 year old. That's really the crux of me asking whether this dress is appropriate.

For me personally, I'd have a younger junior bridesmaid wear something similar to the flower girls dress. And I'd have the "older" junior bridesmaids wear something like what was shown here.'

There are other dresses by the same company that come in the same color, that I'm considering asking if dd could wear those instead.

This is the part of family politics I hate. BIL and soon to be SIL live on the other side of the country from us. So it's not like we visit or even call each other that often. But it is DH's only brother, so we accepted that the kids be in the bridal party. It's a special event and all, yada, yada.

ARgh! I'm still undecided. I'm more stressed b/c it has now become a time of the essence matter. Soon to be SIL waited too long before looking for dresses and of course now she realizes that we have to get the orders in NOW in order to have the dresses ready. <sigh>
post #28 of 69
I'd have to see it on. If it comes up really high it could be fine.
post #29 of 69
I think this dress will look very different on a little girl then it does on the older model in the picture. I think the bust comes up an appropriate ways and that it would be cute and appropriate.

But really it's hard to judge what it will look like on an 8 year old. I would suggest going and having your DD try it on before forming any opinions.

A quick fitting could you lead you (and perhaps the bride) to decide that it's not at all appropriate. Or a quick try on could ally your fears and you may find that it's not the look you are fearing.
post #30 of 69
I like it. I think it's fine.
post #31 of 69
Thread Starter 
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I'd have to see it on. If it comes up really high it could be fine.
I'd love to try it on her but I can't find any bridal shops near me that have it in stock. Most have only the regular bridesmaid version.

Believe me, if it was a dress that was in stock that I could just go and buy, that would be so much easier on my life. But these dresses have to be ordered and then altered.
post #32 of 69
I personally wouldn't ask an 8 year old to wear that style of dress, not for modesty reasons though, it's because I think that particular style looks silly on someone who doesn't have a chest...
post #33 of 69
Nope, not age appropriate at all. I would not let my 8yo wear that, were I to actually have a daughter. It's a dress designed to showcase the bosom, and the fact that an 8yo has no bosom doesn't make it any less inappropriate.
post #34 of 69
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Originally Posted by rhianna813 View Post
You might consider buying a shrug that matches/complements the dress. White, black or burgandy would look nice. That would provide more coverage and you could wear it again in the future.

Rhianna
I agree with this. It is beautiful, and age appropriate for something formal, I believe. A cardigan would also look nice over it.
post #35 of 69
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Originally Posted by rhianna813 View Post
You might consider buying a shrug that matches/complements the dress. White, black or burgandy would look nice. That would provide more coverage and you could wear it again in the future.

Rhianna
I think it's kind of wacky that the style of the dress screams summer and it's winter wedding--for the adult bridesmaids as well, FWIW. But other than that, I don't see anything wrong with the dress, for an eight year old. I do think it will look very nice with a bolero over it; perhaps your future SIL can even let there be color!

ETA - it's unfortunate that the website doesn't show the dress on a little girl. From the looks of it, I do think it will come up much higher than the adult version.
post #36 of 69
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Originally Posted by loon13 View Post
Posting again instead of editing my post:

Junior bridesmaids are considered ages 8-14. But I think there's a big difference in what I'd let my 14 year old wear vs. my 8 year old. That's really the crux of me asking whether this dress is appropriate.

For me personally, I'd have a younger junior bridesmaid wear something similar to the flower girls dress. And I'd have the "older" junior bridesmaids wear something like what was shown here.'

There are other dresses by the same company that come in the same color, that I'm considering asking if dd could wear those instead.

This is the part of family politics I hate. BIL and soon to be SIL live on the other side of the country from us. So it's not like we visit or even call each other that often. But it is DH's only brother, so we accepted that the kids be in the bridal party. It's a special event and all, yada, yada.

ARgh! I'm still undecided. I'm more stressed b/c it has now become a time of the essence matter. Soon to be SIL waited too long before looking for dresses and of course now she realizes that we have to get the orders in NOW in order to have the dresses ready. <sigh>

I think this is a great idea! Maybe a style that your dd would like more, help her see past the colour? And a style that makes you feel more comfortable with her wearing it? Oh, and if you're the one paying for it, then ya, I'd definitely looking at other options.
post #37 of 69
I see no problems with it. My church would be fine with it, too. My bridesmaids wore something similar to the older version.
post #38 of 69
I think when it's altered to fit an 8 year old body it will look completely different. I'm picturing it on the girls in ds's class (8-9) and I think they would look adorable. Get a cute shawl to go with it. It looks like it is a perfect swirly dress

I think for something like a wedding it's ok to look a little more "grown" than you are when you're a young girl. It's all about the fantasy of being fancy. I wouldn't let my 8 year old run around like that to church or school, but a one time thing? No problem.
post #39 of 69
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Originally Posted by loon13 View Post
I asked dd's opinion and she's only unhappy with the color of the dress. Didn't seem to care about the cut or anything. But then that's the only part of her clothes she cares about at the moment -- the color.

Thanks everyone. I do appreciate all the insights.
Right on to your dd! I'm with her. Let the grown up bridesmaids wear the sophisticated, sleek gray dresses. There are warm, sweet colors your dd could wear that would coordinate and accent nicely with that color of gray.

I know, that's not really the issue.

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I personally wouldn't ask an 8 year old to wear that style of dress, not for modesty reasons though, it's because I think that particular style looks silly on someone who doesn't have a chest...
Totally! It looks like a little girl wearing her mom's dress. That scrunched, wrapped bodice is supposed to be filled out by boobs. Kind of comical, except that it's become normal these days.

I like the shrug/bolero thing that someone linked a picture to. That's a classy solution.
post #40 of 69
I don't think it's inappropriate per se. It is fairly conservative and everything that needs to be covered will probably be covered. But the material and the cut seem a little old for an 8-year-old. Not immodestly so, just sort of in the style of the dress. But sure, I would let my kid wear it.
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